Hi all,
First time poster needing some much needed help, sorry if I'm not using the correct terms.
My in-laws (husbands aunt and cousins) are always calling us cheapskates for not getting them gifts for every birthday and Christmas.
He has a very dysfunctional family but he used to live with his aunt and cousins as a teen until she asked him to move out. She has two children from a previous marriage, two step children and two children with her current partner, ages range from 10-17. We used to get the kids presents for every birthday and Christmas but we struggled to keep up with the cost as we were students at the time and they always moaned that they weren't good enough (we got them books, games, bath bombs, money, gift sets from Boots etc) Trouble is you cant buy anything amazing for under £20. Then one year she told us what kind of thing her and her partner wanted for Christmas, so 8 lots of Christmas presents. We did this one year and struggled to meet the costs and we never got a thank you for the gifts we gave, they got put in a corner next to their hoverboard!
We decided after this enough was enough, we tried to say lets not do presents this year, especially during Covid when we couldn't see them but they insisted. We decided to go down the homemade route and made hampers full of their favourite drinks, sweets and chocolate, card games, a variety of baked goods. This all took a lot of time and thought (and they weren't cheap but cheaper than individual presents) it went down well the first year but the last two all we have received is complaints and 'jokes' about it. I wouldn't mind the individual presents but we don't exchange presents with my family other than parents, siblings. They do get us presents but for the last 5 + years myself and DH always the same bottle of high street perfume, its a nice gift and I really do appreciate it but it isn't really my scent (I never complain or say anything other than thank you very much).
Sorry this is so long but I want to make sure I am covering as much as I can, we didn't think we would see them this year so might get away with not getting them anything but they just made plans. Any advice on what we do this year? No presents? Hampers again? Go back to individual presents?
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anxiouself · 05/12/2022 12:07
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