Last year it was decided that all the adults (5 men and 5 women) would buy something for £10 for the opposite sex. We decided to do it like that as we were all skint and that we could all afford £10. I didn't ask to sort this out btw. It was foisted upon me. On Boxing day everyone turns up and there doesn't seem to be an issue. My dd who was 15 asks if she can hand out the ss gifts which she does in random order alternating between male/female. Everyone is laughing and enjoying the moment blah blah blah. However when it's my turn there are no gifts left. Dd checks around for the missing gift and doesn't find it. That's when my brother in a breezy manner says that he didn't buy a gift as he already said he was strapped for cash plus he didn't have time to shop. He happily sat there taking part and accepted his gift. Had he let me know I could've quickly put a present together but as I went last I ended up with nothing. He has form for this kind of behaviour but I trusted him to at least buy one generic item. It kind of stung as I organise either Christmas Dinner or Boxing day buffet every year. This year I have decided that we will just have Christmas day and boxing day off. I'm actually looking forward to spending the 2 days in my onesie and doing nothing. However I have been asked to organise ss again for a small get together before new year. It's not like me to kick up a fuss about anything and this has probably resulted in me being walked over but I feel like making a stand. I am thinking of telling everyone that I will help organise it but me and db won't be taking part (this keeps the numbers equal) or should I implement this without telling anyone, make sure he goes last and doesn't get a gift?