Hi, I expect a situation many are in whereby ex who pays barely anything / leaves actual parenting to anyone but themselves showers the children with luxury items and trips out all year to look amazing (never mind if they have a roof over their head) and then tops it off with a million 'fabulous' presents at Christmas which take away every ounce of guilt of actually being a rubbish, absent parent 😡
What my children would really want for Xmas is 2 parents together but unfortunately that ship has sailed, not from the lack of trying on my part so although i do feel awful for them i tried my very best.
So all year I get 'stuff' (clothes, toys and general toot) bought back to my house weekly as NRP always says they have no room for but apparently I do! This leads me to my question....
For Xmas, am i being fair if i say to the children they can choose maybe 5 items each to bring home and then the rest (which will be an awful lot from ex and then there is grandparent and extended family presents) stay wherever anyone wants to keep them so that the children can play/wear them when they return for a visit or do I let the whole lot come back for me to store and the kids to ultimately ignore and not appear like I'm spoiling anyone's fun. Obviously I'd say it in a gentle, positive way to the kids without running down ex (grit my teeth lol)
Thanks for any thoughts x