I hate card writing!

[NCcoziwannaNC]

I have all my special ones ie. Son daughter mum dad bro sis etc. But this is about 30 cards, we're all sentimental and keep them.

Got boxed cards but not many as its just boring.

Then dd for school. They've already said postbox goes out on 1st so prob 30 cards?
Ds for pre school. Everyone there did them last year. Maybe 15 cards.

I have them all but cba. I used to love sitting writing cards! Now it's a chore!

Just stop. We only send cards to elderly relatives.

I stopped a few years ago and thankfully most people have stopped sending them. We donate to a charity the amount we used to spend on cards and stamps,

I only send a special card to my mum, my aunt and my mil. That’s it.

I only send to people I just don't get to see but want to stay in touch with.

Tell me about it, I actually bought 120 cards today, 40 cards for each DD, they have 30-32 in each class but boxs came in 20s. They will also probably take some into activities. I know I will start by saying they have to write their own but I also know I will end up taking over, well definitely my 5yos 😫. I will also end up finding more people to write cards to just to try and use up the cards I will have to buy that they design at school to raise money for the PTFA.

This. If you enjoy it, great, you crack on, but if it is onerous just stop. There is no rule that you must send them. I stopped years ago for reasons of time, finances and the enviroment, and nothing bad has happened. Instead I send a message to a few people, call a few others, and see the most important to me in person to wish everybody Merry Christmas.

I have cut back.
So its like special cards
Mum/grandma. Dad/grandad
(ils) mum and dad, nan and grandad
Dh
Ds 1
Ds 2
Dd1
Dd2
Brother / uncle
Sister/aunt
Then brother cards for ds1 and 2 from the other dcs
Sister card for dd1 and dd2 from the other dcs
Sil
Niece x 5
Nephew x 6
Godmother
Godfather
Best friend and family
all of the above keep their cards as do i from them we're all sentimental

Dad Card for ex from eldest

Teacher
Teaching assistant

Then boxed cards for the odd couple and school cards

Imho life is too short to write masses of Christmas cards. I am very selective in who I send them too. I have to be anyway now my hands are getting worse.

For next year may I suggest a good cull. Who would actually mind if they didn’t get a card from you?

I stopped with loads of the boxed type used to send ober 60 ish. But gave up.

I see all of the above people over xmas eve to boxing day in person. We're all very close.

I just hate writing them lately. I think its because ive been run down and busy. Maybe now things settled ill feel like doing it. But atm its just another job to do

Worst job of Christmas.

I stopped last year.
Most of the older relatives who would have been upset not to get one have died now.

But this is still loads! I can't think who else you were writing them to before you cut back to this! Cutting to the bare minimum would be less than 5 cards IMO. For a start you could cut out all the inlaws - if your DH is bothered about it, he can write them - but to be honest, if they are now expected, it might cause less drama/cries of favouritism to just go cold turkey across the board. Certainly all those neices and nephews are unlikely to give a shit they aren't getting a card any more and probably won't even notice

Start early and do about 6 to 10 a day.

Since retiring from the workplace I don't do anywhere near as many cards as I used to which is great but the cards I do still write take me ages. Due to years of typewriting bashing/keyboard working, I have tendonitis in my thumb bases and after writing about three cards, I can barely hold a pen.

It's getting worse so by 2025 I doubt I will be able to write even one card.

You get cards for your husband and kids?

I send cards to my elderly relatives only - that's 5 cards now. Have don't done wider relatives / friends for years.

Either accept this is important to you, and put a good film on/music on/whatever and make it enjoyable, or stop doing it.

There is no point moaning every year about something you don't have to do. That is martyrism and life is too short for that.

It's just so utterly pointless.

You either know them really well and spend time together over Christmas, so why a card? Or you dont see each other often, so surely a phone call to catch up is nicer? Or you haven't seen them for decades in which case, stop clinging on!

At a push, I could understand sending a card to a close relative who lives abroad and you just can't see one another, but surely that's just like sending a letter, but it's got Santa on the front.

The postage costs alone would deter me. And unless you are writing long drawn out "catch ups" inside, you are basically paying £1.50 to say Merry Christmas. Seems batshit to me.

If you completely stopped, absolutely nothing would happen.

I only do cards for 2 DDs, DH and my few friends. If DH wants to send cards to his family then he does it. Same with presents.

Absolutely mad. Honestly most people do not notice if you've sent them a card or not. Those that do - well you'll know about those people

I send one to my dad and his wife who live 250 miles away. I send one to my great uncle who is 91. That's it.

I don't think being sentimental needs to equate to keeping old cards? There is no sentimental value attached to a printed card that says 'mum/dad/niece/uncle' etc. it's just a piece of card. The messier is what's important, why not be the first in the family to promote going digital?

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