Secret Santa

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DH's family have set up a secret Santa - but nobody actually told us they were doing it/asked if we wanted to take part
I only found out when I got a message today from DNeice, d we ho seems to have been put in charge of sorting out who buys for who.
but because no one told be this was happening I be actually got presents for all of DH's family - bar one. And most were bought months ago, because I start shopping early, so I won't be able to return
aaaargh.

Ah the perils of buying too early.
Can you sell the stuff on Facebook/eBay or something to get some money back.

Can you just save the gifts for birthdays?

I would point out your werent informed and didnt agree so your not actually part of it.

I'd say the same thing, you can't be expected to organise something you knew nothing about (and if people want to fundamentally change a major part of Christmas they need to raise the idea to ask parties before the 12th of Nov!)

I feel for you OP. This makes me SO mad 😡

Early Dec one year, I was telling MIL what I'd bought for some relatives. She then informed me that 'they' were all now only buying for the children. I pointed out that this was the 1st I'd been told- and already had the gifts. I reluctantly agreed and only took the kids gifts on Christmas Day at their house.

To my shock and embarrassment, come Christmas day- it was the same as always- we got gifts from relatives/SIL and all other adults we normally do and we have nothing to reciprocate. I made it VERY clear that MIL had informed us it was kids only that year and that their gifts were wrapped and sitting at my home!!! When I asked MIL WHY she'd told me only 2 weeks earlier it was gifts from children only she said 'Did I? I don't remember that!!!! 😡

And no, this woman has no dementia or memory issues!

Sorry OP- went off on a rant about my own issues!

I agree with an above post that YOU weren't informed of THEIR change of plan- and give the gifts you've bought and planned for.

I don't see Nov as too early to buy gifts at all and plan ahead!!! Why are they only telling you now with 5 weeks to go???

But your up a load of presents now that you can use for someone else or for birthdays or something else?
Not really seeing the issue - they should have told you sooner but anyway what can you do now