What are you giving your 15 year old girl?

[ADecadeAndAHalf]

Looking for in the region of £25-35. Needs to be something physical- last time I sent money she wasn't allowed to spend it and when I sent a voucher it didn't get to her. I don't know what she's into because whenever I ask suggestions are invariably reference books for school work. She is not allowed to ask for anything. Her only hobby is something her family is heavily involved in. I need something frivolous and fun but serious enough to get past her parents and be allowed to keep.

Don't worry. Rarely and never alone.

Problem is, last time parents said anything they weren't allowed to see DN for 2 months. They've decided that saying nothing to have regular contact is better for her.

Out of interest, when you are there with your DN at the GPS… is your sibling there too?

Yes, invariably. Only time I speak to her alone is if I happen to video call my DP and she's there alone.

I can’t get my head around how dark the atmosphere must be.

Presumably it’s a coffee and off rather than a family dinner?!

What was your childhood like?

Oh family dinners are....interesting. And rather farcial.
Not quite as bad as DN's.

Why? Why do you go? Why do you subject yourself, your partner and children to this atmosphere?

You have a life time of being seen as the black sheep and watching your sister favoured.

you think your sister is a “c*nt”

What do you or your partner/children get out of meeting all together for family get togethers? This isn’t a family get together. This is mortal enemies eating at the same table

What do you mean…. “Not quite as bad as DN’s”?

ominous

@Doingprettywellthanks its max once every 2-3 years. DH and I play bingo and sit the DC's either at the end blocked by me and him or together in a different room. Let them see some normality. Basically we go so DN's remember who we are!

So the last time you saw your niece was a few years ago?

@Doingprettywellthanks I saw her at the beginning of the year. Unlikely to see her for a while.

Haven't read the full thread - I would buy childrens premium bonds from NS&I. That way she knows they are from you when she is of age to get them and only she can cash them in.

This all sounds very very odd!

Actually OP this is a genius suggestion!

I would buy her something small that’s allowed and start putting money away for her, she’s going to need it I think when she turns 18 and realises she can escape.