Dh's Nan just had me in Floods of tears over the washing up...

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she didn't have a clue - she is a lovely 94yo woman. But she rang to say Happy Christmas and said 'Have just been talking to your Dad' (meaning dh Dad) - and I just started thinking I wish I could talk to my Dad - but he died 15 years ago.

So after the call I carried on washing up crying my heart out - it is so strange how this time of year you can still miss someone so much.

I can't show him his lovely grandchildren - I think having children adds a new dimension to how you view your parents and I was barely an adult when dad died (legally not mentally iykwim). Note to self must not get maudlin.....

Aw, I know how you feel. 2007 was the 20th anniversary of my dad dying, when i was 16.. I never got the chance to show him my Dh and my Dses, and I do often think about this. Go and have a good cry, wash your face and put your smile back on, ready for tomorrow.

This can be such a sad time of year, as well as a happy one.

You're not being maudlin - it is lovely to remember those we love.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas.

I feel exactly the same my dad died nearly 13 years ago now, he never got to be a grandad, never got to meet my children.

We have just been to dp's parents house & i see the kids with FIL & have a conversation with him myself & miss my dad so so much.

God i wish he was here, you are in my thoughts x

very emotional time of yr

I get more and more emotional as I get older.

Thaank you I will have a lovely day tomorrow - dd and ds always cheer me up - I will have a drink to Dad and to you lovely MN ladies and to your Dad saltire.

I am sorry Scooby - It is hard isn't it - I really like my fil but at the back of my mind I do have these feelings of sadness at my father not being around that are difficult to deal with at times.