Overwhelmed by xmas and feel like crying

[Cherryrainbow]

I normally love xmas, I plan throughout the year, it's my fave holiday etc but I just feel so flat.
My OH was useless - I did all the presents, decorating, cooked xmas dinner, kept the kids busy etc whilst he did nothing. He didn't watch the kids open their presents etc but kept having his own breaks or treats because it's "his xmas too". I'm yet to find when my break is??? Plus any time my daughter is awake in the night irs me who has to settle her, have her karate chop me in the bed all night etc.
The kids have been mental, boys already lost half their mario lego stuff before we have even set up the app etc. Their room is a bomb site. I'm constantly being asked to watch something, find something, open stuff, what's this, Where's that, and they never stop talking.
I need a break to deal with the xmas break. I feel silly for whining it's just gotten to me and I need a good cry to get over it I think.

Your DH needs to step up. Don’t ask, tel him he’s having the kids for and hour before you do tea, and have a lie down or a bath.

His job is to entertain the kids and give him a list of jobs whilst you’re at it!

Let him get wrapping paper labels cards and his families gifts, tell him he’s booking xyz next year and set up a family calendar - if he doesn’t do it, it doesn’t happen. DH leant the hard way.

I feel really flat this year too so you have my sympathy.

Not feeling or being part of a team with your
DP is what really stands out for me in your post. Tell him you need him to have the kids because you’ve done everything for Christmas and you deserve a rest. (And then next year don’t do everything for him.) You’ve got his back but he doesn’t seem to have yours.

Leave the kids with him to do a 'food shop', turn off your phone or mute your partner and go for a coffee and then hit the sales.

He sounds lazy, selfish and useless. Does he have any appealing qualities?

When you love Christmas you tend to put too much pressure on yourself to make it perfect - it never is. I bet your kids had a fabulous day and that’s what matters.

I had to give myself a real taking to on Xmas eve as I was stressing out so much it was making me irritable and snappy. That doesn’t make for a lovely time. You need to take some time to chill and enjoy the time.

Are they his children too?

Simple tuesday is a bank holiday. Dump the kids with him and go out on your own, all day, visit friends, family, go for a walk, do anything but be at home. Leave him to sort everything

, sorry OP, hope it settles down soon and you can have a bit of time to yourself.

Tell him you won a raffle for a night away for 1. It is for Dec 29th. Book into travel lodge then sleep for many hours. Get up have a long bath, wash hair, do a moisturizer routine, do your nails. DH can stay home and look after DC. You know you deserve this op.

Your DH sounds like a selfish prick. That's your real problem.

@Chloemol

Simple tuesday is a bank holiday. Dump the kids with him and go out on your own, all day, visit friends, family, go for a walk, do anything but be at home. Leave him to sort everything

Do it !

Does your dh still believe in Santa? It’s time for him to grow up and have an adult Christmas which means doing some of the bloody work.

In Ireland the 6th January is known as Nollaig na mBan or Women’s Christmas, a day when women down tools and leave the menfolk to it.

Personally I don’t find it a convenient day because that’s when my decorations come down and the dc go back to school and need a bit of support and nurturing. But I fully embrace the concept and take a day for myself, at my convenience, over the Christmas period.