I thought this odd, DH didn't!

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pinkbubble · 20/12/2007 22:05

Received a Christmas card off a cousin today, very nice one etc, but it had a small message in it saying "next year we will not be sending Christmas cards instead we will be giving a donation to charity"

I guess what I find odd is why do they need to tell us now!

They have plenty of money, why not do both!

We do not buy presents for each other and only see each other at family events so thought that keeping in touch over Christmas was important.

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SatsumaMoon · 20/12/2007 22:07

Maybe so you are forewarned and don't feel miffed if you send them a card and they don't send one back?

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pinkbubble · 20/12/2007 22:10

Think I just feel a bit fair enough with people they see everyday, but with relations that they see perhaps once maybe twice a year its a bit different, and if they wanted to donate to charity then buy a card that supports certain charities.

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SelfishMrsClaus · 20/12/2007 22:11

They need the recognition

ArcticRoll · 20/12/2007 22:14

Agree with you -think it sounds smug too.
Why not quietly donate to charity rather than declare it?

madamez · 20/12/2007 22:17

I also think it sounds a bit ' ooh, look at us, how ehtical are we?'. Same with all that Oxfam Unwrapped stuff - sometimes it will be appreciated, sometimes it will feel like a real put down (and in the case of some elderly relatives, may hurt their feelings). But I don;t like the posturing that some people feel they have to do over their charity giving anyway.

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pinkbubble · 20/12/2007 22:17

I know they have always been careful with food, only buying fresh and organic, but think they are really missing out on the Christmas cheer here. I can just imagine what my 87 yr Nan will say!

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ChristmasPresence · 21/12/2007 09:14

I think they're just letting everyone know, so you don't think they're being funny next Christmas by not sending. My DP has always been very anti-cards (big environmentalist) so I understand why people would rather not send them. None of his family celebrate Christmas due to religious beliefs so he tends to write to them once or twice a year, which is much more personal than a Christmas card with a short note in it. Maybe your family will do this. I think you should just accept what people want to do; things are changing due and I think it's good that they're thinking about what they're doing rather than just blindly going along with what everyone else does for the sake of it.

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pinkbubble · 21/12/2007 12:09

I can see your point, just still think it slightly odd that a) That they have told us now (I will probably have forgotten by next year!)
b) think they should still send to family that they do not see that regularly.
c) Think it takes away a lot of the excitement from people who love writing and receiving cards.

I guess the way I am looking at it (and I do know its probably from the environmental angle into why they are doing it) is to buy recycled cards and ones that donate to worthy charity, that way they are doing their bit for society.

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gonaenodaethat · 21/12/2007 12:14

I do this. I didn't announce it though I just stopped sending them.

TBH I don't think anyone noticed they get so many.

God, I sound really tight don't I?

maybe I should get some

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