Do you feel guilty if you receive an expensive gift?

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I have a friend who always buys expensive gifts. She is a fair bit younger than me and earns a lot less but she lives with her family still so probably has a fair bit of disposable income.

I always try to get her something she will like and she always buys something nice for me for birthdays and Christmas but I feel guilty when it seeks like she has spent more than I have.

Her Christmas gifts to us were lovely and very generous too but I feel a bit bad that she had probably spent a bit more then I have. I have a DC too and she also gives generously to them.

Should I feel bad? Should I just spend more?i suppose when she has DC I will buy for them too. Maybe I am making an issue out of nothing?

I do @mam0918 yours doesn't answer my original question and is a bit dramatically nonsensical.

That's fine but I'm not sure why you've responded tbh as you cont across a bit wound up by it.

I feel amazing if I receive an expensive gift

Yeah I think maybe I was overthinking @TheDrWillSeeYouNow

I do feel guilty if I feel like the money has been wasted - which wouldn’t be unusual because I’m ridiculously picky about a lot of things - or if I think someone has spent more than they can afford. I have had a couple of extravagant gifts from siblings (>10 times what we’d spend at Christmas) over the years that I just feel extremely grateful for. There’s no pressure or expectation to reciprocate with a gift of the same value and they’d hate it if I did feel that way.

@DaisyDozyDee Yes I think I agree with you. I know what you mean about receiving something you might not use or isn't to your taste especially if the giver has put a lot of thought into it or spent a fair amount.

I also have a sibling I spend a lot on and I don't expect it back.