Do you buy your own gifts from your DP?

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DP thinks that you should ask for exactly what you want for Xmas. So in the 15 years we've been together I've always bought (out of joint account or he gives me money back if out of mine) my Xmas gifts and give them to him to give to me on Xmas day. This is how he likes to do his Xmas shopping

I think its nicer to buy thoughtful, surprize gifts for people. And/or listen to the stuff they talk about liking through the year so you can buy things they like/want at Xmas. But I don't ask for lists or anything because I think it spoils the fun. DP never knows what I've got him until he opens it and he always loves what I get him.

I think it's a bit silly to just open things you've bought yourself on Xmas morning and try to act all surprized!! And Id love to have a gift that he had seen and thought was perfect for me. It's nice to get exactly what you want but as an adult with a job & money I can buy what I want at anytime of the year really.

First world problems I know!!

Do you buy your own gifts from your DP or do you get surprizes?

Largely I buy or give DH specific links. He is a brilliant husband and Dad, but bar a book he gave me on our wedding day, present buying is not his strength.

I actually think it's really sad that you're trying to present this as the thoughtful, loving way to go, OP. What I take from this is that your DP thinks YOU should ask for exactly what you want for Christmas (but cut out the middleman, i.e. him, and buy it yourself. Do you wrap it too, or can he manage that bit?), but HE should get lovely, well thought out surprises. You're not just doing his shopping, you're doing his bloody thinking for him too.

FWIW DP and I give each other a wish list and we each buy selected items off each other's up to an agreed total, so we know we're getting things we want but don't know exactly what, plus a few things off-list for surprises.

I'm a bit surprised by adults who want surprises. One of my friends always wants a 'surprise' gift for Christmas from her DH. Every year the DH diligently produces the 'surprise' - a pair of boots/an item of clothing etc etc and every year, the week after Christmas, DF has to take the 'surprise' back to the shops to exchange for a different style/size/colour etc. etc.
Why bother?

I did this year but I wanted books and although he knows what I read (have a massive book shelf in our bedroom that he sees everyday) he asked me to tell him which ones I wanted.. which is fair enough.
He does usually buy without my help usually jewellery, last year was an infinity ring year before a necklace.

I'm a bit surprised by adults who want surprises.

Why? I love surprises - it's ok to be an adult and enjoy surprises.

One of my friends always wants a 'surprise' gift for Christmas from her DH. Every year the DH diligently produces the 'surprise' - a pair of boots/an item of clothing etc etc and every year, the week after Christmas, DF has to take the 'surprise' back to the shops to exchange for a different style/size/colour etc. etc.

That's just one example.

Why bother?

Because we enjoy it and we are not all like your friend and her DH.

Absoloutly not and I wouldn't.

The entire point of a gift is the thought and effort the GIVER puts in, it could be moneterilly worthless (like something they found or made) but if they arent putting in thought and effort that then its not a gift in anyway.

What your husband has given you is a JOB, he is literally paying you (expenses only too) to do the effort for him and he gives it zero thought because he doesn't care.

@ShrillSiren I am the same. I love a good bargain.

This year I have bought most of my presents too from DH, although I know that I have some surprise presents as well.