do your lo's see PIL's on christmas day

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out of the blue the other day dh said he feels guilty because his parents won't see dd (whose 18 months) opening any of her christmas presents.

when dd was born my parents understood that i just wanted christmas day as a family, they really don't mind that they don't see us or dd on christmas day.

i know that if PIL's come round christmas morning, great in laws will want to come and so will BIL, and i really don't want it.

we will being seeing all of them on christmas eve to deliver all presents, am i being selfish.

Mine do see them, but they come up for lunch and stay for the night so aren't here first thing. My parents come for lunch and the afternoon, but go home in the evening as they only live 15 mins away.
One year when dc1 was 2 PIL's came here but stayed xmas eve - and MIL came into our bedroom at 7ish in the morning when dc1 was sitting on our bed opening his presents. Since then I have insisted they dont stay xmas eve - I want xmas morning to be just us with the dc's. MIL wasn't impressed the first year but seems to accept it now.

Slightly selfish but you could just open los presents in front of pil on xmas eve??
PIL will be coming to us for xmas dinner..or we usually go there. My mum wont see dc open presents but that is here choice.

If thats what you have decided as a family then Ok , but your DH does not seem to agree, maybe you need to talk it through again.
It appears from your post however that it IS your DH who has the issue not your PIL hope all sorts itself by next week

We See anyone who wishes to visit on the day BUT we stay at home

in laws have never actually been round on xmas day before. don't really know why dh has said this because he moans when they come round every saturday. they have to see dd at least once a week, its me who feels guilty if they don't not dh. i must sound awful.

Yep, we see everyone on Christmas Day. Both sets of GPs, the boys' aunts, uncles, cousins. Big, noisy Christmas - love it!

dd is being carted to ILs then back home to await a visit from my mum this christmas day because they want to see her open her presents. She will be 6 months and 2 days old but it seems harmless to indulge them and they both live very close by.

mine see there nan, i couldnt imagine it any other way to be honest, never thought to do it any other way??? but it is personal choice

My ILS and my mum will see my dd on xmas day, not first thing in the morning though. It's my dd's first xmas so we wanted to have xmas dinner at home, just the three of us (dp, dd and I) and then everyone else can come round in the evening, so they will get to see dd open the presents that they have brought.

If they are close I would suggest they come over in the evening or you go to them. I can understand you want to keep the day more intimate, but I can understand inlaws wanting to see LO's opening presents.

Perhaps they hinted and thats why DH suggested it.

MY PIL have been getting earlier and earlier, last few years they come in while we are in bed ready for the LO's opening their santa presents. Gets a bit much having everyone sitting on my bed when I haven't even brushed my hair or teeth . Due to recent split I thought it best if they wait until we are up and downstairs.