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If I could skip Christmas I would.

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thelegohooverer · 10/12/2021 01:17

Usually Christmas is something I look forward to, daydream and plan well in advance but this year my mojo has disappeared.

I’m still trying to think up a couple of gifts. I’m not very confident about what I have bought and I’m just so so tired of thinking and making decisions.

It’s been a hard year, and I’m not looking forward to January either but if I could just close my eyes and skip Christmas I would.

Anyone else just not feeling it this year?

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thelegohooverer · 10/12/2021 01:18

Probably not the best board to ask on! Hmm

Sorry if I’m bringing the mood down. Usually the Christmas Boards are my happy place.

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Doodledeedum · 10/12/2021 01:19

Yep
I've had a very weird year and not wanting Xmas AT ALL. I want to sleep and wake up in FEB

repottingthescabious · 10/12/2021 01:28

Now Santa, we have been through this every year.

NameChange74567 · 10/12/2021 01:29

My gran, who I was very close to, died on Christmas day. If I wasn't for DC I wouldn't entertain it at all.

Howmanysleepsnow · 10/12/2021 10:08

I’m struggling a bit to get in the mood. My plan is to start lighting Christmas candles, wrap a couple of gifts a night with a Baileys, get my non-Christmas chores out the way and hope the feeling catches up with me soon

Pickles89 · 10/12/2021 10:31

Now Santa, we have been through this every year.

Elves just not pulling their weight huh? Xmas Wink

Pickles89 · 10/12/2021 10:32

Seriously OP, yes, I feel similar. Last year was the shittiest Christmas I can remember. It's tainted the whole thing for me. I would love to teleport to January.

sleepymum50 · 10/12/2021 10:35

I’d teleport to April (end of)

ThackeryBinks · 10/12/2021 10:36

I'm feeling overwhelmed with it all. I feel like it's a hill I've got to climb and I'm already out of puff! I'm going to let things slide a bit. Not my usual perfectionist self.

witsendeverytime · 10/12/2021 10:40

No I love Christmas. My dad died in December years ago but I don't associate it with him except in all the best ways.
But hard to feel cheerful if there's stuff going on in your life or you generally just feel bleh. My worst Christmas was the one after my husband died one October - my kids were 4 and 6 and I did my best to make it lovely for them, but I took the tree down not long after as I just couldn't stand it. Fortunately I can be happy about Christmas now.
Take stock and figure out what's the root of your malaise. Then see if you can put it to the side for a while, or accept that this year just isn't going to be full of joy for once.

sanityisamyth · 10/12/2021 12:31

I hate Christmas. I dread it every year. It gives me massive anxiety and horrific flashbacks. I'd rather skip it every year!

TheFairPrincess · 10/12/2021 15:41

OP I understand. I love Christmas but my dad died last year just before Christmas, 1st anniversary of his death this week, and now the kids are getting older I stress a little more about making it magical.

Strangely the thing that feels the hardest this year is my 6yo doubting father Christmas's existence. It feels like such a strain and conflict deciding whether to lie. My 4 year old found a box with a couple of presents in earlier and that's messed me up too :( Maybe it is projecting but everything else is falling into place except for all this FC lark! Sometimes I think it would be so much easier without the whole myth.

userxx · 10/12/2021 15:44

God yes! This year I just cant be arsed, looking forward to a few days off work but getting dressed up and being a social butterfly feels like hell to me right now.

PoshWatchShitShoes · 10/12/2021 15:50

I'm usually done with shopping by start of October and my house is decorated by 3rd week of November. It's usually the best and most exciting time of the year.

Feeling the opposite and like the grinch this year though. Our house is a building site and we're just about to move from Airbnb to inlaws for an undetermined period. Their Christmas decorations will look beautiful, but I'm just so sad we weren't back in our house over a month ago. First world problems I know, but I understand the feeling of just wanting to skip it.

Hope you can find some joy in it all. Even just new pjs and a cosy blanket to watch Christmas specials on tv

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thelegohooverer · 11/12/2021 00:52

@Pickles89

Now Santa, we have been through this every year.

Elves just not pulling their weight huh? Xmas Wink

This is definitely part of it! Dm, dsis, db, and mil all expect me to provide ideas for the dc, and/or buy and wrap as well. I don’t mind (or at least I mind the onslaught of pointless crap even more) but it’s just another chunk to do.

And there’s the residue of last year, the spectre of a Jan lockdown, and yes it feels exactly like climbing a hill when I’m out of puff!

It’s selfishly comforting to know I’m not the only one. And I’m sorry that for many the dislike and anxiety runs so much deeper, and for much more serious and sad reasons.

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ElinorOliphant · 11/12/2021 00:57

I can’t be arsed either….. I’m not depressed but feel ‘flat’.

repottingthescabious · 11/12/2021 01:03

@thelegohooverer @Pickles89

Xmas Grin Xmas Wink indeed.

We are enjoying Christmas this year by not having the turkey and madness because

a) cost (too many unexpected disasterous bills this year)
b) one poor bugger is left normally nursing the turkey all day

I recommend you take the heat out of it by paring down some of the things you could really do without.

That way you will enjoy your Christmas on your terms. The skiy will not fall in if you do not cross your sprouts or buy or fail to buy table gifts. Just re-jig Christmas to suit you that way you and everyone else will be happy.

mrsmacmc · 11/12/2021 01:03

Flat as a pancake here too. Crawling to Christmas Eve and then want to hibernate

NotTheOriginalFeargalSharkey · 11/12/2021 10:44

I will skip xmas with you.
Can I just go to sleep and wake up about February?

coodawoodashooda · 11/12/2021 10:45

@repottingthescabious

Now Santa, we have been through this every year.
Hahaha!!!
Honeyroar · 11/12/2021 11:19

I would too.
I couldn't have children, it reminds me of that.
I'm no contact with my brother, it reminds me of that too.
My parents are elderly and unwell.

I don't have a lot of friends that would want to go out, not that I would either really. My best friend died a couple of years ago.
I've never worked anywhere that did Xmas dos.
I'm working for myself now, solo.
Christmas just makes me feel like a sad failure! Luckily my husband and parents don't particularly love it either, so we just have a quiet one, but the Xmas crazy side of my husband's family think we're mad.

Thegreencup · 11/12/2021 11:23

I don't want to skip Christmas. But at the same time I can't be arsed with all of the shite in the run up to it. But the time it gets here and I can relax with a Baileys, I always feel much better.

I have to go to a funeral next week. So I'm not exactly in the mood for festive cheer.

Tibtab · 11/12/2021 11:27

I had a baby in November and my older DD (20 months) has been ill on and off for months. I am so exhausted, I am behind on present buying. Can’t even think of what to get anyone.

I thought when I had children it would bring back all of the Christmas excitement but I just can’t be bothered with it all.

LindaEllen · 11/12/2021 12:08

@Tibtab

I had a baby in November and my older DD (20 months) has been ill on and off for months. I am so exhausted, I am behind on present buying. Can’t even think of what to get anyone.

I thought when I had children it would bring back all of the Christmas excitement but I just can’t be bothered with it all.

Honestly, it will be better once they're both old enough to understand and to get excited themselves :). You're doing an amazing job!
crimsonlake · 11/12/2021 12:14

I am just going through the motions preparing for Christmas. How are we supposed to feel festive and plan through all tihs uncertainty. I have one son abroad and it is a repeat of the anxiety of last year as to whether he can come home for Christmas or whether I should put him off due to the way things are heading this year again.

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