hiding being pregnant with non alcohol drink??

[mumsy72]

hi i have just found out i am pregnant only 4 weeks but dont want to tell anyone yet.only myself and husband know. we are invited over my mims for crimbo day with all the family and know my mum will try to get the wine down me, and als have the family to mine boxing day with friends aswell so everyone will be drinking. how do i hide this?? i have thought about buying non alcohol wine and pretend its real so no one guesses but dont know what exactly is in this and wonder if it is still safe to drink. can anyone advise or any other way i can get out of it. i know as soon as i refuse a glass of wine or more they will guess.i have a eleven month old now but 5 weeks before finding out i was pregnant on him i did miscarry so dont want to tell anyone till i am 12 weeks and had a scam.

Come up with some non-serious medical condition you could pretend to have, say the dr told you to lay off the booze completely.

say you woke up with a headache?

tell them you are on antibiotics and that the dr has said that you musn't drink. I;ve had this in the past in all seriousness...

congrats on the pregnancy!

Tell everyone you are driving
Congratulations by the way.

congratulations!
you can say:
you have a hungover from the previous night
have just had a stomach bug and stomach is still upset
you can slowly sip half a glass of wine so that it'll last for the whole time , I suppose. I would.

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tell them you are on antibiotics

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Accept the wine and people will be enjoying themselves so much that they won't notice that you aren't drinking it. If dh is drinking same as you, you can swap glasses from time to time, so it will look like yours is going down and ask for a soft drink from time to time because you are "feeling thirsty."
It helps if you are happy to take a few sips. I went off wine in first 4 months, but still felt OK to have a sip or 2 and that was enough to make people think I was drinking. You think people notice but really they don't! As you have an 11 mo too, you can't really get trollied - so people will understand if you are drinking slowly.
Another ruse of mine, was to keep "losing" my glass at bigger gatherings. And then I'd help myself to something I fancied and just tell people I was having a rest, or say ... "I'll have another wine now ... I suddenly felt really thirsty!"
I was an expert at this! I once went to a works do where everyone was drinking margaritas all night and didn't get found out!

agree with cod

don't draw attention to it - in your house just have the wine and sip tiny bits - then tip away as and when you can

can you use the excuse that you're driving when you go to your mums?

I agree with the OP's concerns - we have known countless times one of our friends is pregnant because they are not drinking.

Be prepared if you are asked, as the reactions to the inital question was always a giveaway in my experience - like they never expected anyone to notice!

I've used a dreadful hangover in the past - people seemed to believe I was likely to have one.

Its amazing how people just don't notice if you don't bring it to their attention. I just took wine and DH drank it or we swapped glasses etc. At parties I just used to walk around holding a glass but never drinking from it. No-one noticed at all. Congrats, btw! I am in the middle of 2 week wait so could well find out I am pg on xmas day so might be in same boat as you!

agree with cod
i had a party on saturday and drank a few sips from half full glasses over the whole evening)
made sure i glugged the odd lemonade and asked my son to only put an inch in the bottom of all my glasses
i 'lost' them most of the time anyway but it was actually quite easy
i was too busy to stand around chatting and its so easy to leave a glass in one room ....

i am old school though and think the odd glass now and again is absolutely fine...