Ok - opinions please on this present situation

[saltirehangingonachristmastree]

I have a group of 5 friends in my hometown that all buy Christmas presents for the DSes and I for their children. Last year, one of the friends didn't send any presents, although I wasn't surprised as she is a bit scatty. this year 4 of the friends got together and sent presents by courier, the one who forgot last year wasn't included. So - do I send her DCs presents this year, like i have with my other friends Dcs or do I just not bother. Also this same friends mother always sends £20 for my DSes, every year.

do you WANT to?

I give presents to some of DD's mates who I know won't give back,but DD wants to, so we do

Don't give a gift to get a gift. Give a gift if you want to give a gift

I would also say do you want to give a gift to her dc, personally i don't give a gift to recieve one

I don't give to get a gift. To be honest there have been one or two other incidents with this "friend" anyway, like the fact that she forgot to let DH and I know that she had planned a 6oth birthday party for her mum and neve rinvited us. her mum was really upset (according to DB who was there) as to why we hadn't gone. Her daughter had told her that we couldn't make it, but DB put her right and told her we weren't invited.
I just feel that she has no interest in my DCs or me, never get a card, or even a phone call, or an email, ever! I often text her and email her and never get a reply. I guess I'm just wanting justification for not sending anything

Well, what you have just put is more solid reason to not send anything than your op of she didn't get us anything last year so should I forget about her in return this year! Much more understandable a reaction, tbh.

If you don't feel you want to give, don't give. If you feel she's not a friend, cut her loose.