Bum!

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After thinking that we were going out for Christmas lunch ('d'h's idea) he's now decided that he doesn't want to go out 'cos we'll have to walk to the restaurant (we don't drive & he won't spring for a taxi). So now I've been informed (last night) that his parents are coming here for lunch instead & I have nothing, nothing, organised.

So guess who's going to be doing all the cooking, washing up & general dogsbodying

well it should be dh cos he wanted to change the arrangements

why odnt YOU pay for the taxi?

sorry that sounded a bit harsh

What you'll do ALL the cooking and washing up for everyone including his parents?

Oh no no no no no no no no. That's not how it works. You have to put him straight.

you could always tell him that he can do what he wants, but you're going to the restaurant for your christmas lunch as previously organised.

'tis bloody tempting to go on my own with the dcs.

We decided on a chinese buffet - we're not that fussed for trad turkey etc & dd3 (2.9) flatly will not eat meat of any kind, potatoes (unless they're chips) or gravy but she will eat boiled rice, sweet n sour sauce & prawn crackers 'til it's just about coming out of her ears.

It's all joint accounts we have so even if I paid it would still be coming out of his money too iyswim.

dh does a lot of the cooking on a day to day basis & would help with Christmas lunch but last time we had guests (his parents, sister & her fiance) they all sat & had a drink & a laugh in the living room while I battered pots etc around in the sink

It's really just the fact that I thought I was getting a break & now I'm not coupled with the fact that dh doesn't want to spend loads on food & thinks you can feed 4 adults on a little turkey breast joint from Asda

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Thanks

i realise you have a joint account - but surely you get to make decisions too?

why dont you compromise and order chinese takeaways

ok

Go online to M&S and order a preprepared Christmas lunch from them. They do the turkey stuffed and wrapped in bacon, roast potatoes on a tray (ready to go in oven), things like carrots in herby butter ready for oven etc. Also sell booze. You may have to collect it since their pre-Christmas slots are likely to have been booked by now, but it's a good (if expensive! - that'll teach your dp to think at home is cheap! - ) option. Then you delegate ALL clearing up to dp and his rellies and ensure it happens by disappearing to sleep your lunch off. Sorted!

lol yomellamoHelly

When we talked about what to do at Christmas I'd gotten hold of the M&S food catalogue (drool) & wanted to place an order for a store pick-up but dh took a look at the prices & just about passed out.

I'd better explain - dh is an accountant & is very careful with money whereas I'm a bit less thrifty (he even complained when I said I was sending some MN secret santa parcels & wanted to know who was paying the postage). The monthly bank statement always starts a row (he is the only breadwinner atm as I'm a SAHM on a career break) & he is very good at making a huff last several days. I don't want an atmosphere over Christmas tho' so as usual have just given in without a fight.

I'll get my own back one day tho'

right set the ground rules now.

DH helps with you the prep on christmas eve.

Everyone helps with the clearing up after dinner before anyone sits down in the living room. Make sure that his parents know this before hand. If know one helps then leave it.

Its christmas for you as well.

If you can get foil disposable which can be thrown away so less washing up.

Let them know that you are changing your plans to accommadate them. If his parents don't like then they find somewhere else to go.

should read foil disposable dish.