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anyone else's school say no babies at the school xmas play??

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:20

recieved a letter today saying no babies or small children at the key stage 1 play and at the key stage 2 carol concert. I can't leave callum with anyone as he is BF and will not take a bottle, also he needs topups after feeding. I thought I would feed and topup just before the play and concert and he should sleep for a few hours.

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hatrick · 10/12/2007 20:21

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littlerach · 10/12/2007 20:22

Yes, ours does this.
But it's only 40 mins lomg so not too bad.

BeeWiseMen · 10/12/2007 20:22

just take him and tell them he's the baby jesus.

Seriously take him and make them turn you away if they dare. You're not stupid. You'll take him outside if he gets really upset.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:23

he rarely cries, only when hungery.

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CarmenerryChristmas · 10/12/2007 20:23

they said that at dd's pre-school but people still brought younger siblings. It was fine as long as they were relatively quiet. I'm sure that if you feed Callum as planned it will be fine.

scatterbrain · 10/12/2007 20:23

Ours won't allow anyone under 6 in the audience - not even sleeping babes in arms !! It's tough - but they won't move on it as they say it puts the performing children off - and I suppose they have to put them first !

scatterbrain · 10/12/2007 20:26

How long's the show ? Can someone sit in the car with him whilst you're inside ? Or take him for a nice walk in the pram ?

At our school they definitely turn babies away - I have seen several stand up arguments about it - but they just say firmly "we did tell you Mrs.... that you couldn't bring the baby" and off the poor embarassed and tirn Mum has to go ! We have two performances - so people organise swapsies of babies !

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:29

I asked the dep. head today if I would be able to take him, as it said on the letter that if it causes problems then to speak to them. She is going to ask the head and let me know. I understand the ruling as to why, but an 11 week old, whose the size of a newborn and sleeps lots, isn't going to be too much trouble, and if he started crying I would leave the hall

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:30

it starts at 2pm, so I guess at least an hour.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:30

oh forgot to say the carol concert is at the local church, not actually at the school

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scatterbrain · 10/12/2007 20:32

Could you "wear" him in a sling under your coat ??

TheIceQueen · 10/12/2007 20:35

scatter - they wouldn't dare to that at DS1's school.......for starters their emergency pianist (me!) wouldn't be available if they banned pre-schoolers.

I recently played the piano for a song at the Christingle service, had DS2 (4) sat down next to the reception kids in front of the piano , and I was pushing DS3 (6 months) in the pushchair with my foot as I was playing

DoubleBluff · 10/12/2007 20:38

Ours allows younger siblings but asks parents to take them out if thye cry for the sake of the 'performers'. unfortunatelyy not everyone respects this , ggggrrrrrr!

Blandmum · 10/12/2007 20:40

The very worst thing in ds's last christmas concert were the parents talking, loudly, through the whole thing!!!!!!!

No=one should object to a babe in arms, or toddlers for that matter, and long as the parents would take them out if there was a disturbance. Sadly some parents don't have that degree of consideration (same ones who were chatting throughout the play!!!!!!)

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:42

we are not allowed to take pics anymore either

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denbury · 10/12/2007 20:43

i would ask my child not to be in the play as i couldn't get child care for my youngest.it may only be a 30 minute show but you have to get there and back and as most friends i would leave him with would be at the show to how else could look after the child?

TheIceQueen · 10/12/2007 20:44

my DS2 was the only "non" school child to get a Christingle too - and after I "absolved" the school of any H&S issues over lighting it (by taking responsibility of him) he had it lit too

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:46

ice. DS1 got to light one of the candles last year at the carol concert because it was his birthday, it falls on his birthday again this year

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TheIceQueen · 10/12/2007 20:48

mind you - got some dirty old looks from the other mums and dads as we left the church though.....not only had I had the best seat in the house...my nursery aged child was proudly holding his Christingle, looking longingly at the sweets.......while their children looked on with jealousy

marymoocow · 10/12/2007 20:53

Our school is exactly the same as yours Sparkly. In fact we cannot take our 2 ks2 dc to see ds because we can only have 2 tickets. So we still have to find child care. AND again for the ks2 carol concert the following week for ds, as only 2 tickets again

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:54

yes its two tickets only here too.

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canmummy · 10/12/2007 20:58

The school where my dc went to nursery did this but they also provided a creche. My friend even had to put her 3-week old baby in it! The creche was run by some of the teachers and older girls

Bauble99 · 10/12/2007 21:02

Our school puts the KS1 show on over 2 days. The first morning is for parents with babies/toddlers and the second morning is baby/toddler free. The KS2 carol concert is for everyone, babies and all.

LyraSilvertinsel · 10/12/2007 21:08

Our school is the same. they send a letter round saying no younger siblings but I still took DS2 last year. We also only get two tickets but they do allow photos (at the end) and you can video it from the back of the hall.
This year DS2 will be at nursery preparing for his Christmas concert while we watch DS1's (he's playing Joseph ), then DS2's is straight after and then we take him home, so should be fine.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 21:11

we have 2 play dates too, but they are both sibling-free...

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