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Christmas do's

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elfsmum · 10/12/2007 13:48

Have put this here as it's sort of Christmas related.

I work quite a lot on my own because of the nature of my job, over 300 people work here, all in teams, apart from me and my boss - think quality control type job.

So although I interact with people I don't work with them iyswim.

anyhoo doesn't normally bother me, but at Christmas it does. The teams all have nights out arranged or have been on them. The big works do is on the last day of school - and I love picking my DC's up on that day so don't want anyone else to do it - so I'm not going on the big do.

and all of the directors who I work on the same floor as have all just gone out for lunch together, and I've been left here by myself.

I just feel like crying, I feel so lonely and isolated.

I've just smiled when I've walked into other peoples offices and they have christmas cards up ..... I haven't received one.

It really is bringing up all the feelings of isolation from school, and subsequent jobs where I've felt left out, and the other mums at school.

Feel very

my throat hurts from trying not to cry

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mylittleponey · 10/12/2007 13:51

send cards to your collegues or could you send an email card?

BeeWiseMen · 10/12/2007 13:54

that's horrible. I'm welling up just reading that.

do you think you are left out partly because of the nature of the job you do? sounds like maybe your role is checking on compliance, picking up errors etc?

i think we should have a virtual mumsnet party for those of us who aren't going to any dos. The only downside is we'd be being sick on our own carpets

ja9ladiesdancing · 10/12/2007 13:58

oh poor you.

i'm sure no one means to be mean... not that that will help you cheer up just now.

elfsmum · 10/12/2007 14:02

I'd like to think some of it is down to my job, I'm not in a team so I wouldn't think anyone would think "oh lets invite elfsmum she's not in a team"

and I'm not a director so there wouldn't be an invitation to me for that one

my boss will be mortified that I'm upset but he can't magic me up a team so I have people to play with

keep thinking to myself grow up !

but I've always felt that I don't quite belong (but that's a whole other thread !)

and thanks for not ignoring .....couldn't bear a virtual snub too

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mylittleponey · 10/12/2007 14:05

wouldn't think they are ignoring you on purpose - upsetting situation though xxx

elfsmum · 10/12/2007 14:17

I don't think they are, really.

AF is due too, think I may be a little hormonal .... would normally be a little upset but not wanting to cry

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BeeWiseMen · 10/12/2007 15:02

actually I do think it's up to your boss to make sure you are invited to one of the dos. I would if I was your boss. Not that anyone would ever let me be in charge of people .

Have your own do. Pick your afternoon and crack open a big bag of twigletts and a box of red wine and wander round the office propositioning young men and photocopying your bits. It'll definitely get you noticed and I bet you'll get loads of christmas invites next year.

Meeely2 · 10/12/2007 15:09

funny, i have just vowed never to go on another xmas do after making a complete arse of myself on saturday - u can have my place next year.

elfsmum · 12/12/2007 18:35

update: very upset Monday night - got told to stop whinging by DS

Tuesday still felt really down, walked through the door when I got home and burst into tears - remember AF is due a visit so very emotional

in car today with boss, he says "did you go to the night out on Friday ?"

floodgates open, tell him what's been going on, he felt awful I felt so isolated but understands why

gave me a big hug and took me for lunch, o.k. it was a toastie but it was the thought that counts, feel much better

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elfsmum · 12/12/2007 18:36

DH not DS

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