want to help mum

[Brandnewchristmaspyjamasgirl]

Ok I will try and keep this as short as possible.
My mum and dad have always gone mad on the kids at Christmas ,my mum really loves this time of year and goes all out.
However this year my Dad has found it hard to find work (he's an asbestos stripper) and my mum had her hours cut at work.

Anyway she has invited us for Christmas dinner as she feels terrible that she hasn't got the kids much I've told her it dosen't matter and everything but she seems really down.

However I have almost done the DC shopping do you think she would be offended if I gave her one of the presents I had bought for each of my DC for her to wrap up and give to them.

I dont want her to feel I'm been bossy by saying they must have something to unwrap 'cos I'm not I just know that on Christmas day it's going to be hard for her when we go up.

Hope I've made this easy to understand lol

I think it would make her feel worse.

I would just explain to the children that nanny hasn't been able to buy as much as usual; it's better than children get to learn that this happens. And keep reassuring your mum that it really really is ok; that it's their company that matters more.

I have explained to dc and they are fine with it I just dont want her to feel bad and she has helped me out so much in the past .
I do understand that it may make her feel worse though.

i would hope your dc are more than understanding that presents are the thought not how many

just remind your mum that this is how you think and that whatever she has would be appreciated as if as many as she normally gets

i understand why she would feel upset but at the same time x mas isnt about spending loads of money on dc its about spending quality time with family

just keep reminding her about this and she'll have good time

i wouldnt offer presents or this enforces its about the amount of gifts once again when the focus needs to be its not the amount of gifts given