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Where to have Xmas?

24 replies

ohmyohmy123 · 08/09/2021 23:49

We alternate our Christmases between my family and DH family.

Last year we were due to have it with my family, however due to the lockdown we had it alone at home.

Now we have a dilemma...DH thinks we should be having his family this year as it's not their fault we couldn't have my family last year and it's their year.

I'm inclined to say we should have my family due to the missed year.

What would you do?

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Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 08/09/2021 23:50

Have your family

Whattheschitt · 08/09/2021 23:51

Have your family.

minimilkmaestro · 08/09/2021 23:53

It's been 2 years since xmas with DH family and 3 years since xmas with your family.

The rule is turn about. It's your family's turn.

Elouera · 08/09/2021 23:53

Do they all live so far away that they need to stay at yours?

We used to alternate too, so Xmas day meal with 1 and boxing with the other, then change the next year. Some years we did Xmas lunch with 1, and evening meal with the other- but this became a long day and just a bit much.

Elouera · 08/09/2021 23:55

@minimilkmaestro

It's been 2 years since xmas with DH family and 3 years since xmas with your family.

The rule is turn about. It's your family's turn.

Sorry, didnt actually answer your question! If this is the case, then its your family!

OurMamInHavianas · 09/09/2021 01:46

Spend this year without either family or with both together, maybe, then get back on your usual pattern next year.

Or, get out of that pattern completely.

FizzyDibdab · 09/09/2021 05:46

I'd celebrate it with both families this year either booking at a local pub or asking everyone to bring a dish. I've lost a few family members recently so I hosted a joint meal in the summer with both sides. With the 0andemic disruption, nobody knows what's going to happen & who will still be alive next year. I'd take the opportunity to see both families this year. Send a note out saying you're booking x pub 9n x date & you'd be happy to see as many as possible.

HaveANiceFuckingDay · 09/09/2021 05:55

Your family. It would have been 3 years that you've seen your family if you host his family this year
This is why I don't indulge in all that nonsense

Stompythedinosaur · 09/09/2021 12:43

Definitely your family! Clearly it is fairer to see both families a year late than one family as normal and one family two years late.

Stompythedinosaur · 09/09/2021 12:44

*three years late

Driftingblue · 09/09/2021 12:50

Has one of you got a sibling or other relative who has also worked out a similar schedule? If so, I would coordinate with them because otherwise the ripple effect will create problems.

EL8888 · 09/09/2021 13:34

I vote your family or a joint thing. Why should your family miss out?

Jumpingintosummer · 09/09/2021 13:37

Your family, it’s turns and they haven’t had a turn.

toolazytothinkofausername · 09/09/2021 13:41

Do they live close together?

Could you see one side on Christmas Eve or Christmas breakfast and the other side Christmas lunch and afternoon?

Loudestcat14 · 09/09/2021 13:44

Is hosting both sides a possibility? We do that and it cuts out a lot of bother and we get to stay at home.

YouDoYouBoo · 09/09/2021 13:45

Your family, assuming you both want to keep doing alternate years.

EekGoesTheBaby · 09/09/2021 13:48

@Driftingblue

Has one of you got a sibling or other relative who has also worked out a similar schedule? If so, I would coordinate with them because otherwise the ripple effect will create problems.

My initial reaction was your family, but this is a good point.

Poppins17 · 09/09/2021 15:03

Definitely your family

QueenBee52 · 09/09/2021 15:43

YOUR Family 100%

Haiyaa · 09/09/2021 15:52

We’ve had similar, due to be DH’s last year but they were in tier 4 so couldn’t come. My parents came as they are closer and we already had all the food on order before BoJo threw Christmas under the bus and didn’t want to waste it.

We will still be having my family this year though as DN spends every other Christmas with his dad so if we switch he won’t get Christmas with his whole family (and we host as other houses not big enough for all).

Will be seeing DH’s family only a couple of days after though. And they will get first Christmas with DC due next year.

I do sort of see your DH’s point of view as you were on your own for Christmas his parents are now at a “disadvantage” also through no fault of their own.

Don’t suppose there is any way you could see both parents on the same day? Maybe breakfast and presents with your family and lunch/evening with his? Mine are too widespread for that so it is always a 3 day job.

Notaroadrunner · 09/09/2021 15:55

Personally I'd be delighted to continue the new tradition of staying at home without either family . However it's definitely your family's turn.

Pompom2367 · 10/09/2021 14:53

Your family or a joint

HungryHippo11 · 10/09/2021 21:09

@HaveANiceFuckingDay

Your family. It would have been 3 years that you've seen your family if you host his family this year This is why I don't indulge in all that nonsense

"This is why" - a once in a lifetime pandemic. You must lend me your crystal ball 🤣

NoWordForFluffy · 11/09/2021 07:26

"This is why" - a once in a lifetime pandemic. You must lend me your crystal ball 🤣

I read 'This is why' as relating to unforeseen events rather than specifically about a / the pandemic.

If you insist on turns, I'd say it's your family's turn as theirs was postponed.

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