Strategies - will he take the hint?

[PrettyCandles]

While surfing Amazon with dh for Xmas presents for the dcs, I wrote the name of a perfume on a postit, telling him that I needed his help looking for the cheapest place to buy it.

The postit is still on the desk, 3 days later.

Do you think he took the hint?

What subtle ways do you use to let your your dp/dh know what you want - short of drawing-pinning it to his forehead?

No. He thinks you wanted it for someone else, not you.

subtle is a waste of time!

Write your own christmas list.

Don't stick it on his forehead, he'll claim never to have seen it!

Subtle doesn't work. You have to do a Christmas list and give it to him, in his hand, and with the words 'These are the things I would like for Christmas'

Better still buy it yourself and give it to him to give to you! You'll get what you want and it will probably be at a better price than he'll get it.

TELL HIM. IN WORDS OF ONE SYLLABLE.WHILE THE TV IS SWITCHED OFF AND HE IS LOOKING AT YOU.

Or you won't get it.

But I like the knowledge that he's made an effort to please me. In previous years he has given me lovely jewelery, but since he learened that our tastes aren't the same he hasn't bpought me any more. He doesn't understyand that it's bnot the actual item that matters to me, but the thoughtfulness. And the only reason I don't wear 'his' earings etc very often is that ds2 can whip them out or break them in an instant.

I want romance again...

He may have left the postit on the desk because he hasn't had time to do it yet.

How about getting a sample of the perfume on your wrist next time you go past a perfume counter and then ask him to smell it to see if he likes the smell on you, dropping the name of the perfume into the conversation.

You say "He doesn't understand that it's not the actual item that matters to me, but the thoughtfulness." Have you had a chat about this already?

I have made it clear to DH that unless I specifically ask for something I would rather he surprised me because I like the fact that he has to put some thought into it.

BTW, agree with soupdragon that the postit makes it sound as if it is for someone else.

He might be fooling you into thinking he hasn't sorted it but has got it already and is keeping you guessing so you have a nice surprise on Christmas day.

My DH did that once..... a long, long time ago.

Email him with links to specific items.

Works a treat.

No, he knows it's for me. I've been yammering on to him about how I'm about to run out of my current perfume, and think I'll go for this one next.

Has anyone ever had subtlety work on their man?