I would like DH to get me a surprise for Christmas

[clumsymum]

I know you are all going to say I'm ungrateful but....

It was my birthday yesterday, and dh bought me a book, and a couple of CDs, and some lindor chocolates from ds.

Now that's very nice but every Christmas/birthday he buys me books/CDs/DVDs, and something chocolatey from ds (which ds now eats most of).

I would really like dh to think a bit harder, and buy me something else, just for a change. If for no other reason, this house is heaving with books, and we now have 956 CDs. But more than anything, I want a surprise.

How do I get him to do it ?????????

Well, I would get my mum to have a word with my dh. Is there anyone you can have a word with, who could then have a word with him, so it doesn't come direct from you, IYSWIM?

Leave it a few days and then tell him. Tell him that you now have enough books to keep you going, no othe rmusic you fancy, etc. and what you'd really like is a nice suprise gift that he has chosen especially.

a surprise present is quite a lot to ask. I wouldn't expect my dh to get me a surprise present - I'd rather tell him what I want and tell him to buy it for me.

i drop massive hints. show him stuff in magazines, say out loud the shop the bag/top/necklace/underwear is in, where the shop is (street name) etc

dh likes it, it means he can get me something i really like! i dont say "i want......" and specify one thing, thats not in the spirit of things is it, but if i see a nice bag i say "oh look at this bag, i like it in green, its from frasers, you know, opposite ryans bar"
etc

Cut out pictures of stuff and stick to the fridge or put in his wallet.

One of the local jewellers handed me a 15% off card so I've put that in the front of dh's wallet

Perhaps you could write a list of things you'd like and he could then choose one of them...thats a kind of 'controlled surprise' that can't go too wrong.

"a surprise present is quite a lot to ask"

Why? He used to do it in our early years, so why does it become impossible?

Even my father used to manage surprise presents for us, and for my mother. His Piece de resistance was a chaise longue, delivered with a big red ribbon, on Christmas eve one year.

All it takes is application of thought.

i also elt dh know my favourite shops. if you repeat it lots of times they get the hint

I agree. I love suprises. Fortunately DH always buys me suprises for Christmas and my birthday

I do drop hints at times. DH knows the shops I tend to go to, the types of things I like, my sizes, etc.

Oh, and dh's excuse is always the same. "I don't get chance to get to the shops".

Perhaps I should remind him to book some time off to go Christmas shopping.

not all people have the application of thought to get a surprise present. I find it hard enough to get dh a surprise present.

give him a list of websites then, if he doesnt have time to shop in a RL shop

i think is lazy not thinking up surprise presents

I would be miserable if I had to tell dh what to get me every single time.

I know him, I love him, and I can choose a present that he will like. And him me.

I agree nailpolish and TellusMater.

I don't tell him what to get, I never know which books/CDs to expect, but I do always know it'll be books or CDs.

And just going to amazon.co.uk and getting whatever he can from there does seem like taking the easy option.

I would love a surprise from dh, and thought I might get one this year, but since dh has started to show an unhealthy interest in iPods, what they do, how many songs they hold, why do some have a screen, etc, it is clear that i will be getting one . He doesn't go in for that type of thing, he's only just got his head round cds, and doesn't know how to turn on the computer, let alone drive it, so I know the iPod's for me. That's fine, I would use one, probably but I would like a surprise, just for a change!

My DH doesn't "do" surprises and I've given up trying to get him to. Last Christmas I asked for a surprise. He went out and bought 4 pasta dishes for a fiver from the outlet village. Now, don't get me wrong, it was a lovely present, if not romantic, but as soon as he had bought them he had to tell me what they were and how much they cost! After 11 years I accept it, although his first ever present to me was marvellous and reduced me to tears (in a nice way you understand).

Why don't you say to him

You know what, I would really LOVE a surprise for christmas this year

My DH can never buy me something spontaneous - I always have to give him a list of things I would like! I would also love to have something I didn't expect!

P.S. You didn't count your 956 CDs did you???

write a fantasy shopping list with say 10 items you like how much they cost and where to get them, then give it to him and tell him you would like at least 2 or three things from the list, hopefully he will missunderstand and buy all 10

At least he buys you something himself. I still haven't had a birthday present from my dh (was in the middle of September), because I couldn't think of something to ask for at the time. Now, along with doing the Christmas shopping for everyone else, I am getting bits for me, and will ask dh to pay me back for my Christmas presents when my credit card statement comes in.

Grrr! Grrr!!

som epeople are rubbish at thinking of good surprises. If he's like that, I don't think he'll turn into walter raleigh overnight. Tell him what you want.

My DH is getting me a chicken house this Christmas - this is not something he would have thought of getting if he had not been told to! However it is what I want and I do think it's quite sweet that he's getting it even though he thinks the whole idea of keeping chickens is slightly bonkers and really isn't very keen!

Anyway, my point is, he would get perfume or something as a surprise, and since I tend to want things like chicken houses, safest bet is to tell him - then I always get what I want (although he will do some little surprises, like you I know exactly what they will be!)

my DH has ordered me a 'surprise' all I know is it is a jewellery item (and a very expensive one considering where it's coming from) and for once it makes a change cos I always do the whole list thing and I end up having to get it all myself anyway!!
This time I asked for a nice piece of jewellery that has my birthstone (which is diamond )

while this may not constitute as a surprise as such, it is cos I have no idea what he might have picked out IYSWIM

heres a good jewellery site that you can pay off in installments www.comptonandwoodhouse.com/Jewellery.asp?cat=jew

I'm not bothered if I don't get a present at all. I honestly don't even care about presents at Christmas (or birthdays) - it's more about the celebration for me and doing fun stuff with everyone.

I think it's very sad that people get so hung up on it.

Mishymoo

"P.S. You didn't count your 956 CDs did you??? "

Well I didn't. But dh is a bit 'Anal' about such things, and has always known how many we have. Anyway, they are stored in Ikea shelves, which hold 8 per section, so you can just count the sections and multiply. When we get a new one, dh has to reorganise them all to fit it in it's correct alphabetical place.

Most of the CDs are from before DS. Can't afford them like we used to....