A Time To Think

[BLKS7]

Good morning all,

Sadly my daughter passed away in 2019 and times like Christmas are hard for everyone who's lost a child or anyone else close to them.

People don't know what is the right thing to say or do to make it "better"

Nothing anyone can say or do can make anything any better because they can't bring the person you've lost back especially after this year it's been a hard year for everyone but many bereaved parents are struggling more then people realise. It's been a lonely year.

Please take the time to show a bereaved parent your thinking about them, show them people are still thinking about there child.

A lot off people don't think parents want there child mentioned but many parents like my self do want you to talk about them to relive some off the memories we had.

A little message means a great lot to most off us don't feel like we would be upset by a message most will feel the opposite.

If people have the time tonight can we please light a candle and post below for the heavens angels

Sleep tight Macy - you will never be forgotten. We miss you more then words can describe Mummy loves you millions xxxxxxxx

And to all the Heaven Angels - Merry Christmas we will be thinking about you all xxxxx

@BLKS7 (we lost our daughter too but are a little further down this awful journey) you're absolutely right, hearing your child's name and people asking about them, friends mentioning them is so important. I find that it makes it easier for my friends if I take the lead and say her name often. I refuse not to mention her if there's something to share and she will always count as one of my children.
There's a wonderful charity called The Compassionate Friends that supports bereaved parents - they have online support groups, a phone line for support, closed Facebook groups and in normal times in person groups / events.
💖 Macy 💖

I wanted to add that this year has made it incredibly difficult to grieve as a bereaved parent because so much of the usual support can't be given - there simply aren't the friends who can come and pick you up off the floor and it's very hard to be really sympathetic to whining about not seeing family for one Xmas when you will never see your child again. It's ok to feel like that or however you currently feel. It does get better (although that in itself is awful to imagine). Hang in there.

@Tickly I'm so sorry to hear it really is awful I'm here if you ever want a chat feel free to PM anytime.

Your so right with what you have said life is just so unfair people expect you to just "move" on and it's not possible in ways because a part off you is always missing

We talk about Macy a lot in our house she will always be with us even though we can't physically see her xxx

I have no idea how to PM in here but the same offer is there from me.