Inlaws want to come over around xmas time

[Mommybearx]

My inlaws want to come over. My sil is always breaking rules, she’s currently breaking them now having left tier 3 to stay overnight outside of it. Her husband works in a public area too. They have planned to come over..
I don’t want them to come as they always act like there is no covid and I don’t want to take their risk on.

Is that fair?

Last time we saw them as they demanded to see the kids even though they weren’t meant to.

I feel like they expect me to break all the rules and be as careless as them when we’re trying to be careful and just stick to what’s advised

I’d rather stick to my own bubble only which is my folks as they do childcare

Simply say no and keep repeating the government advice. I really wish people would stop pressurising others.

Just say no. And keep saying it.

If someone wants to smoke in your house do you let them? If someone decides to drink and drive, do you get in the car with them? If someone tells you to jump off a cliff, do you jump?

As an adult you make decisions for yourself. Just calmly tell them you have a different risk tolerance to them, and you don't want them to visit. It is not personal, if they can't respect your wishes, they are not very nice people.

If you don't want them there why on Earth did you agree last time.

You need to find a backbone. You simply say 'Sorry . No. We are sticking to the law and advice' 'cases are rising again because people are breaking the rules' 'I will not be part of that' ... 'see you when the rules permit.'

The rules do permit it in the Christmas period I thought? That’s when she wants to come over. But based on her running wild all the other times eg now where she’s gone away I just don’t want her coming then. I’ll have to tell her.
Find it difficult with inlaws as they just think they are entitled

Could you try telling them to let you know when they’ve done their run of 10 days isolating so that they’re safe to see you and then just use it as a way to say that you are prepared to see them when they’ve isolated - if they don’t want to, then that’s fine, their choice, but you won’t be opening the door if they turn up. And then stick to it!

What does your partner think? If he agrees with you and doesn't want them to come over surely it's his job to tell them and put his foot down since it's his family