What can I do with my mum on Christmas Day at 2m outdoors?

[BiscuitDrama]

My mum lives nearby on her own and could bubble up with us, but is being very cautious and isn’t. So I sopped she’s spending Christmas on her own

I did ask if she was sure about that, given we’ve just had it a month ago, but she hasn’t said anything about it.

So what can we do? Go round and stand and chat outside for a bit? She won’t let me give her any food or drink. I can’t think of anything else. She won’t walk far so we can’t go for a walk. Is there anything else?

Take picnic chairs, blankets, flasks. I know she won't drink from yours but you could remind her to organise one ahead of time.

Take a hot water bottle perhaps? Would she sit inside by a window while you sit outside?

Alternatively, she may prefer to ignore Christmas completely. We did when we lived abroad for a year. It was better to tune out than to feel so far away.

I’d go round in the evening and have some sparklers, maybe some quiet ground-level fireworks, construct a bonfire/fire pit and toast marshmallows

There are very few options really but I like @picklemewalnuts idea.

Badminton?

If she is saying she doesn't want to see you on Christmas day I'd leave her to it. If you feel you really should go round even though she has said she doesn't want to see you I would have a quick chat in the garden and then leave her to it.

Honestly it sounds like she is very anxious about catching it and may not enjoy a visit. Maybe it's better to wait until things are a bit safer to visit, send nice gifts and just have a zoom chat if she can manage that, or a phone call.

I think you either leave her to it completely. Zoom her, or give a quick phone call. Sitting around outside in December is ridiculous, and more likely to make her ill than the chances of her getting covid.

Set up a gazebo, have a firepit, take some food/drinks (your mum can make her own. You bring your own chairs etc, your mum can bring one from the house. You can easily distance.

Thanks everyone. Badminton it is

I’ll have a ponder and gently ask if she fancies a scenario here or there and see what she says. She’s very miserable about the idea of Christmas on her own, as she usually makes a big thing out of Christmas.

You could have a picnic in the garden, and she eat her food and u eat yours. Bring blankets, warm clothes boots etc. I bet she will be happy to see you. Hope it all works out for you BiscuitDrama