Anyone else worried their plans will go tits up?

[Ohdoleavemealone]

I am a planner. It is annoying me already that DH won't properly discuss with me "butchers or waitrose" for the food. I like to know I have everything in line.

COVID is really messing me around! DH gran is vulnerable and looked after by his mum who wants to see the kids xmas day.
DH has suggested we all do tests when the kids break up from school so we can make sure we aren't passing anything on to relatives but due to timescales we would literally be finding out xmas eve/day whether or not we had it and then expecting his parents to make last minute alternative plans! We are also due at my parents on boxing day which would be off too.

Of course, there is always the chance we will catch it or have symptoms too and have to isolate over xmas!

The easiest choice is to say we will see no family over xmas but I am really struggling with seeing no one already and my family make a huge deal of xmas so would be devastated too.

So, I am going to spend the next 3.5 weeks feeling in limbo! I feeling I hate but a situation I will make the best of. Anyone else joining me in limbo?

It wouldn’t have occurred to me to get tested just so you can continue with your Christmas plans but I would have thought if many people do this, the testing system will explode - is speculative testing even possible unless you do it privately

I assume DH meant private testing.

We haven't actually discussed it in depth as I am not mad about the idea to be honest. The kids are young and when DS HAD to have it he found it really stressful.

I definitely wouldn’t be basing my plans on the results of a test due back on Christmas Eve - I’d make a decision one way or the other and go with that

DH and I have decided not to do a "proper" Christmas meal for this reason. Will probably have pizza.

I am not too bothered about xmas dinner for us as we would be hosting it an have all the food. I would just feel bad for inlaws as I am pretty sure my MIL would make the choice to come if it wasn't for DH worrying and saying he wasn't sure about having them over.

He has OCD and anxiety around health issues so is worried about it often.

We are staying as a household so as not to risk spreading/catching the virus and no last minute changes.

Education finishes too late for 14 day isolation and there’s the risk of being sent home in the last week and having to isolate as a contact so just seems far simpler to leave plans this year and do something in summer.

We've just decided to just stay home. Just me and the kids. We will visit my parents 70 miles away (not seen since August due to I'm going restrictions either there end or ours) on one if the 5 days. I will discover and well spend a few hours socially distanced in their patio and then drive home. Might take some buffet food to make it special whilst we exchange gifts. I'm hoping one if the 5 days is dry enough to do this.

I can now plan my Christmas food accordingly. For me, I just think we're so close to a vaccine I don't want to ruin it now. We've gone all year with restrictions. I'm desperate for a hug and normality but just won't risk it in our circumstances.

I hope you find a solution.

We've decided to stay at home, no one is coming over to spend the day. We've made no plans in the days afterwards either. It may be a very quiet Christmas but I'd prefer that than have to cancel plans.

I am with you op. Mum is sick (incurable) and i have a 12 day old ds and a 2yo ds. Seeing their nanny is really important. We will be having private tests £120 each for me and dh so we can safely see her. Being in limbo is horrible. My dsis and Dorothy can isolate and spend Christmas all together our situation is more complicated with work and dsteps. Hope it works out for you