To always dread the Xmas day talk with DP/IL

[Satsuma2019]

Is it just me or does anyone else dread each year having to make the Xmas day plans and tell their parents and in laws who we are visiting and when on Xmas day in case one or the other gets upset?

Yes

Every year

So this year I didn’t have the discussion.
I said why we were doing what I decided to do and didn’t enter a discussion about it

If anyone got upset then I would have a Christmas at home just us

We try and be fair and take turns but it doesn’t always work out that way

I do. I dread it every year.

This we is we spend every Xmas day at home without any in-laws. But if we didn't then we'd alternate.

Yes, and for this reason I’m really hoping we are under restrictions for Christmas so I can pull the ‘covid card’ 😆

We usually spend Christmas Day at home, family members moan about it then they invite us over Boxing Day, my parents are divorced so I then have to decide which one we visit or try and fit it into one day. My dad gets a bit funny with me if I decide to have lunch at my mums and not his. It causes stress and my teen kids don’t want to go to either.

We try and share it out and every year is the question “well who are you having dinner with?” I’m pretty sure my DH dreads it just as much as me.

I was kinda hoping there would be a lockdown so that we would have no alternative but to stay at home this year.

Stay at home and invite them to yours - restrictions permitting.

We have one year with my mum and one year with his mum (mine is widowed, his is divorced and his dad isn’t too bothered we see them a lot during the year)
I insist on doing Xmas here though as it’s easier to host one person than take a family of four away and entertain the kids in someone elses house.
Extended family aren’t bothered it’s too much hassle to visit at Xmas and we just do it at some other point in the year. No stress!