No one will tell me what they want for xmas!

[Ohdoleavemealone]

Particularly aimed at siblings. I guess they think we have loads of time but as the only one with kids and the one always with a stricter budget, I like to start a bit sooner than December.

So as I have asked twice, and got no answer, would it be unreasonable to go ahead and start buying and then if they come back in 3 weeks with ideas, say it's too late?

I'd crack on and then tell them they are having surprises this year.

I don’t buy for siblings, only buy for kids and my parents, makes it a lot easier.

@Lovemusic33 They buy for my kids and don't have any of their own so it would feel unfair not to buy for them.

I'd give them another week or two or buy making sure that it's a shop they'd normally buy from and get gift receipt.

I'm coming to sympathise as I'm in the same boat with my brother! I asked everyone in my family for their list and explained that I want to be organised this year and that there's going to be big delays in online ordering and stock issues. Everyone sent me lists apart from him, he said he isn't even going to think about Christmas until December and he'll send their list then 🤷 after stressing about it I decided I'm just going to let him crack on, if I order stuff and it's late or the things he wants are out of stock then it's tough 😂

I would just make clear that if they don't tell you by x date, you will just make a guess. Maybe they would just like to stop but need you to ask if that's what they would prefer.

I don't understand the buying for adult siblings even if one buys for another's children and they don't have any. They are adults and they can decide whether or not to buy for neices and nephews. But I appreciate that everyone is different.

Only kids get presents on my side of the family. Once they reach 18 they are done for Xmas and birthdays, except for their 21st. DHs side still buy but it’s generic, bottle of bubbles, Xmas biscuits etc.. the real gifts go to the kids. There have been a few years were we have just done kids. It’s mainly done for us as we are single income and can’t always afford to buy for everyone. I know the rest of them exchange gifts when we aren’t around but there is never an issue if we can’t afford to.