Gift for DFIL who is having palliative chemotherapy

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My wonderful FIL has been told this may be his last Christmas and will be spending the next three months having chemo to hopefully give him more time. We all love him so very much and it's just the most devastating news.

Our budget is only about £50 but we want to get him something that would make him happy. He has diabetes and as hes having chemo food isnt really a suitable option. His mobility is not great so days out etc can be difficult.
We've got him a cuddle cushion off the kids to make hospital chairs and beds more comfy.
He's not really a reader. It's a tricky one!
Any suggestions gratefully received xxx

Would he be able to use a duvet mattress topper in hospital? We love ours, it is so comfy and cosy. It would certainly make a big difference to his comfort at home.

it must be so difficult.

Not another bunch of flowers have some great stuff

How about a photo book of all the photos of his life? From childhood/his parents, teenage years, meeting MIL and their wedding and children, to children’s weddings and grandchildren?
I work in a hospital and many people like to look at these although I do work with women not men so not sure if this is suitable for your FiL x

Does he listen to music, or talking books if he doesn’t read? Both can be listened to while lying down if necessary.

A photobook with pictures of his loved ones and pictures of him in happier times. If it was me, I think it would be comforting to look at and doesn't require too much effort to do so.

Great ideas thank you xx

My dad appreciated a snug blanket for his knees, chemo can make you feel really chilly. A pair of really warm gloves and socks for the same reason.

The best gift you can give obviously is just being there. I hope you manage to enjoy Christmas together, it will be a special time even if it is heartbreaking. Best wishes. x

When we were going through this , some of the things that made a difference were old comedies films, sheepskin to lie on helped prevent bedsores starting and scented primulas in a pot; their scent and that they were growing was a positive thing in the room.
Such a tough thing to go through.

How about some cashmere fingerless gloves from turtle doves as they're nice and soft and warm. And/or an Audible subscription and some nice cushioned earphones that will be comfortable while lying down.
I love the idea of a comprehensive photo book too with photos from right through his life, I'm sure that would be treasured.

Sorry your beloved Gil is do I'll. How about an electric blanket. Not one you lie on but a soft snuggle blanket you put over you. Chemo makes you cold. Groupon had a nice looking one on an offer under £50.

Fil is so I'll.

My Dad really liked a few years back a book of old photos from the place he grew up. He spent ages looking at it.
Something like these
www.waterstones.com/category/history/local-interest-family-history-and-nostalgia/places-in-old-photographs/page/40

Last Christmas my DFIL was having chemo and has since passed. We got him some lovely pyjamas that were hia current size (smaller than what he'd usually wear) and that made him feel a bit better. We also bought some vey light food he loved and that he could eat; he could not have sweets because he had pancreatic cancer and had a hard time drinking a big amount of fluids at once so we got him a ton of popsicles which he loved.

So sorry to hear you're going through this. In my experience telking them you love them and being close is what they really want.

They were sugar free popsicles.

And sorry for the typos!!

Snuggle electric blanket.
Is he a music lover? An Alexa echo dot thing that will play him what he wants without him having to move.

Sorry you are going through this. Been there two years ago. It's really hard going

If you buy a Echo dot I'd be tempted by a light bulb that he again can control by voice