Just not feeling it, anyone else?

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As title says really, I am usually Mrs Christmas! I adore it, i usualy have lots planned but with covid eveything cancelled and i just can't get into the swing of things! Anyone else feeling the same? I hate feeling this way!

No, I'm the opposite. But I know people who have said the same, hope you get into the swing of it!

I feel like i have gone through the motions of being organised but very meh about it.

I feel the same. I am definitely struggling to find my Christmas mojo this year.

It’s early November 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s only just been Bonfire nIght. Wait until Advent, and then see how you feel. I just don’t get this early obsession with Christmas. And if you don’t feel like it, tone it down.
I lived in another country for a decade where Christmas was more like Thanksgiving- not about presents and mad levels of consumption. More about having a special family feast and time together. I want to focus on that more than buying stuff. In the end that’s what matters more

I’m also the opposite

I'm the opposite in terms of getting presents but I try to do this earlier anyway as I find it such a struggle and for some reason I've just had a few decent ideas unexpectedly.

Otherwise, what is there to organise in Nov?? Maybe you'll feel it by December

I usually get Christmas vibes from doing christmassy things- taking my daughter to see the lights get switched on, Christmas shopping with a stop to grab a hot chocolate or a mulled cider halfway through, and I work in a coffee shop so we usually have festive drinks and treats now. I think the absence of being able to do these things is what's making me feel a bit 'meh' about it, I'm usually well in the spirit by now too. I've bought a lot of presents too but it doesn't feel christmassy and exciting this year like it usually does. Going to have to make the effort to do festive things at home as replacements for the things I can't do usually

Um, it's November. Maybe that's why?

Totally agree. I'd normally have most presents sorted or thought of by now, a list, plans, Christmas movies etc. I have just started to watch the movies but just feeling blah about it all. DH wants to put dex up earlier than usual, I'm saying later... just not me!

I'm the same. Christmas is big from October normally but I've not given it much thought this year. I'm worried about my job and money is tight, I also lost my wonderful DM at the beginning of lockdown 1 which was made all the worse due to restrictions.

Well not yet I'm not - it's early November!

Not yet, but then wouldn’t really expect to.

I’m hoping to start feeling Christmassy on 1st December (or Advent Sunday) when I shall make the first batch of mince pies, with carols playing and plenty of mulled wine. 🎄

I love Christmas, start early every year. I've done most of the present shopping now but still wasn't feeling it. Then yesterday we decided to go to a local National Trust place that we love and visit frequently. It was misty and cold. Everything was golden orange, some leaves still on trees, most making a carpet on the ground as we walked along in our wellies, hats and scarves. We had a winter picnic in the car and a flask of hot choc with obligatory sqirty cream and marshmallows that I cleverly remembered to pack after our walk.

Driving home later my daughter played her Spotify list in the car which included Elbow's Golden Slumbers. We all looked at each other and squealed as we simultaneously had visions of the John Lewis Christmas ad from a few years ago!

Arrived home feeling excited and festive at last

I just want it done in the hope we can have a better new year

I'm not really. My mum usually hosts a lovely family day (her choice!) but we have all been trying so hard to protect my Dad, who is not officially shielding but is in several vulnerable caegories, and no-one is prepared to risk all that for one day even if we're 'allowed'. So I'm at home with the DC while DH is at work. I'm going to focus on what we do have - family, jobs, a home, health hopefully! - rather than what we're missing, but it still feels a bit sad. I'm sure we'll have a nice day but everything feels so weird.

@OddsNSodsBitsNBobs Sorry for your loss x

Thanks @PinkJam

Sorry did not mean to type anything, my phone was in my hand while carrying DC

I've done stocking filler presents early because I don't want to have to hit the shops in December, but tbh its all very flat without the family get togethers to look forward to. Even if we can, we won't, to protect family members.
I think the thing I'm most looking forward to is the outside light decorations. I'm hoping that people will go all out this year, to make our more frequent walks/only entertainment, more fun.

I struggled to find my Christmas mojo a couple of years back and I decided to completely cut back on the workload- less decorations, less effort finding “perfect” presents for difficult ungrateful people, took more shortcuts, sent less cards, attended less events.
It sort of re-set Christmas for me. I have a tendency to over reach myself so my aim is to pare back a little more each year.
I also avoid feeling Christmas too soon now. I prepare in advance because it offsets the panic and let’s me focus on enjoying December instead of stressing through it. But even though I’m on the Christmas boards a lot, my mindset is organisational rather than festive.
I’ve realised that I probably suffer from sad as I find November quite a difficult month. I think I don’t adjust properly to the clocks moving back. Ideally I want to be finished with Christmas shopping now and settling into enjoying winter.

That’s a long winded way to suggest that leaning into your feeling rather than fighting it, might be the way to go.

It's one day, over six weeks away. And we're in the middle of a pandemic. In the nicest possible way, can you dial your expectations down for 2020 and just put it to one side for a few weeks?