I'm spending £110 more on DD than I am DS

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My kids are 8 and 4. I'm spending £1100 more on 8yo DD than I am 4yo DS. Is that really crappy? She wants a fecking £50 Roblox play set though as one of her presents 🙄 whereas DS is happy with a few £20 hot wheels things.

For context - £230 on DD and £120 on DS in total.

No, it doesn’t matter at all.

At that age I think it's more about an equal, or near equal amount of presents (and size of presents to some extent) rather than cost. The 4 year old certainly won't understand what things cost

I think it would be normal to spend more on older kids as they tend to want gadgets that are pricey but smaller whereas younger kids have toys that come in bigger boxes.
As long as it doesn't obviously look different (huge pile of presents for one and just one present for the other) it's fine and the kids won't realise the cost.

Of course it doesn’t matter, if they like different things and you have got them things they want, like and will enjoy the monetary value shouldn’t really come into it particularly when an 8 year old girl is very different to a 4 year old boy so very difficult to compare etc.

Would be different if you have hugely favoured one over the other, spoiling one and stingy on the other then yes that would be harsh and unfair

I have never equaled the money nor amount of presents. I have 3 D.C. of varying ages and I buy what I think they will like. It's a non issue here.

Our dc are now in their 20s and we have never price matched , when they were younger we tried to get roughly the same number of gifts to unwrap but never considered the cost and it’s never been an issue . The way we look at it is eventually over time it probably evens out and if it doesn’t as long as they have things they are happy with it doesn’t matter .

At that age it is fine. They have no concept of cost.

To clarify they're getting the same quantity of presents.

I guess I'm acutely aware that I do more/buy more for DD 😬 but I do think it's because older kids cost more

I have three and I always spend the same on each

It’s fine at any age !

I honestly don't know whether there is a difference in what I spend on my dc. I don't add it up. They are, however, at an age where they aren't asking for expensive tech or branded clothing, so at some point I will have to budget.

I like them to have a similar sized piles (both on the small side).

I always spend more on Ds than my girls as he's into video games. Always get the same number of gifts though.

We've never price matched, just make sure they have similar size piles, it evens out in the end and them being happy is more important

Agree at that age they don’t care as long as they get something they like. Equal number of pressies is more important. I have never evaluated cost for mine and think it will even out over time - different years they are both more expensive/ cheaper. Never caused an issue.

At least you aren’t spending over £1k on dd @GlummyMcGlummerson

You could compare it to what you spent on your DD at 4. It doesn't need to be equal. Your DS won't realise his are worth less.

As a child, we used to get a coin or two in our stocking, totalling around £2. I used to think it was the 'change' left over from what my mum had spent! It definitely wasn't!

Mine always get £250. I buy the presents and what doesn't get spent goes into their ISAs therefore they have the same amount.

@EThreepwood we do the same - set a budget and then anything under the budget they get as cash.

There’s 5 years difference between my children. I’ve spent an extra £450 on my oldest. I don’t count presents and or try to match the value. Both are extremely happy with what they get and don’t question the value/number of presents.

I honestly don't think it matters. Being treated the same is not always equal. I'd assume when your younger child gets to 8 they'll then end up with a similar value to what DS has now. And sometimes kids will want / need a more expensive item I wouldn't price match for the sake of it. More view it as when the youngest wants a console or a new bike she'll get it then.

Mine have an equal number of things to unwrap, not that the kids will count but to make present opening last longer we get them to open in turns.

I’m spending about £200 more on dd1 (16) than dd2 (14), dd1 needs a ipad, dd2 just wants a couple Lego sets. Dd2 will have more to open, she has ASD so for her it’s quantity over quality, she doesn’t really know what things cost.

I never do equal money.

It's fine, some years ds gets more spent on him sometimes dd depending on what they need. It all equals out over the years

I have 4 kids, 15,13,10 & 2, the 3 older kids are getting significantly more spent on them than my 2yo but she will have more presents than the 3 older kids.