Help me plan a “ just the two of us Christmas”

[MrsGrindah]

So it is just going to be me and DH this year. He will struggle with that but it is what it is, so I’m looking for ideas to make it special.These are my “ problems” that I’m looking for help with please.
How do we get the day off to a lovely start? We do breakfast in bed most days so that’s not a treat as such and I don’t want to go to the fuss of a formal sit down breakfast.
I’m tempted to do presents in two shifts ( we won’t spend a lot) ..maybe at breakfast and then after dinner?
The how do we fill the day? He will Zoom his family and that might bring him down a bit so I want something else to do ..
I don’t fancy a walk..we live in a city centre so it’s not that picturesque.
We are not religious so won’t be going to church.
Nice wine will be freely available!

Any ideas ?

Hmm I’d be a bit annoyed too. Also you can’t really sign up for Xmas day things without discussing it with each other first surely.

I would but this won’t be the hotel you might be imagining...there’ll be an OAP special. I’m just being sulky..he has his parents and mine are sadly gone, so I do understand he doesn’t want them to be alone.

I’ve decided he can make Christmas breakfast . Well save all the nice Christmassy stuff till we get back. Will still try to incorporate some of your ideas. But not the ones about families judging us on Zoom! I want to lock the door and not let anybody “ in” . Bah humbug!

@MrsGrindah

I would but this won’t be the hotel you might be imagining...there’ll be an OAP special. I’m just being sulky..he has his parents and mine are sadly gone, so I do understand he doesn’t want them to be alone.

I’ve decided he can make Christmas breakfast . Well save all the nice Christmassy stuff till we get back. Will still try to incorporate some of your ideas. But not the ones about families judging us on Zoom! I want to lock the door and not let anybody “ in” . Bah humbug!

You'll have to get in earlier next year and book into a nicer hotel! 😂

The in laws will still be able to join you for lunch but it'll be a little more of a celebration and not so much of a slog x

Hey, how about saying, right you've decided what we are doing, but I am going to decide where we are going. . .

Sorry that your lovely plan was ruined. I’d be extremely unimpressed at not having been consulted, as I’m sure you were. Is he even bothered at the frostiness or does he not give a shit about you and how you’re feeling?

I’d celebrate your Christmas for two on Christmas Eve instead (although I don’t see why you couldn’t just have visited with his parents on that day!).

I’m going to give my suggestions anyway, strictly for your benefit as I don’t feel your DH deserves it right now. I mean, I understand where he’s coming from (to a point) but he should have discussed it with you and asked you what you wanted to do...

Argh real life is calling for a bit so I’ll be back later!

Thanks Ninkanik. It down to his sense of duty more than anything which I do understand. But I was pissed off that he hasn’t given any thought to making the day nice for us. Anyway he’ll have to drive now so more fizz for me!

I wouldn't be happy in your shoes either.
My suggestion probably won't work for you now but it might be fun anyway if you both drink wine. We'll miss all the pre Christmas social activities we normally have. I'm going to suggest that we make a list of potential wines to go with the turkey and taste one of the potentials each weekend (starting in Nov or even late October depending how many end up on the short list). We'll both mark each wine to determine which one to have on Christmas Day.

He should of discussed it with you definitely especially if he knew you were already making plans. However I do understand him wanting to see his parents at Christmas, if this year has taught us anything, its that life is to short (With that in mind I am not sure hotels will be open Christmas so maybe keep a note of your plans aswell anyway)