Do you get shy when..

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asked what you want for Christmas? And just answer with "suprise me" OR do you actually say what you want?

Usually I say suprise me and then admittedly get stuff that I don't like or need. So this year, I'm actually making a list of what I do want. I feel scared sending it out. Hahah.

Depends who from....

For DH I have a list including cashmere and Tom Ford perfume, for everyone else I say I don’t want anything.

Yeah i'm not shy with my husband either haha.

I mean In-laws, brother & sister in-law. Parents and friends.

I always ask people what they want and they get so shy but I press them further (as well as their kids) becauas I like to people what they want/need. I know it can awkward though. Eek.

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I tend to give a vague idea of what I want or a make I like so they have some idea. Usually my answers are "oh I don't know, anything from Sanctuary / Cath Kidston or you know I love scented candles etc." It's never anything specific and leaves it open to anyone's budget - unless it's my FIL. I get on very well with him and he will ask if there is a particular book, perfume or bag etc I want and I am happy to answer properly because I know his rough budget and know he'd prefer me to have something I'll enjoy and use.

No, always very specific. Few people buy for me, but if anyone asks I always have some random, usually inexpensive ideas. For my impending birthday, my friend asked so I have requested a specific bottle of wine, some wooden spoons (I have none and it is most irritating) or some cream writing paper. I'd rather they get what I want than something I will just regift or charity shop straight away. I will be asking my dad for a sodastream. Which I will then buy myself and he will give me the money for...

If they ask then just tell them! No need to be shy if they have asked.

My DH would ask what I wanted for Christmas and when I actually told him he would get me something completely different so it "would be a surprise". (insert eyeroll emoji!)

My DD, her partner and I all do lists of things we'd like, with no expectation of getting everything in the list. Some of them are quite simple (eg, id like to have some pictures that have been framed hung) some are more expensive (eg, id rather like a cashmere dressing gown).

We do this because we are very different people (some of the things DDs partner asks for I don't understand, Axel grinder, for example) so couldn't possibly guess what the others might want/need. And we can choose things off our given list for other family members to buy.

Some gifts are a total surprise (I once got a holder to keep half an avocado in, most useful gift I've ever been given). But it means we all get some of what we wanted.

No need to be shy. Unless your asking for something no one could afford

I don't generally 'want' all that much, so I normally say vouchers for somewhere or just some chocolate (aaaalways welcome!) or bath stuff. It's been a long time since I've wanted a specific 'thing' for Christmas. My partner normally gets me something nice like some jewellery or something, and I'll ask for things like books etc that I'm wanting to read if someone else asks.

I think it’s awkward because you don’t always know their budget. So I tend to do as a PP said, and suggest a certain shop or generic item, then they can choose the price.

I never ask for expensive gifts but PIL & siblings in-law are generous, as am I with them. This year I've gone for things in shops where I know they'll get discount. 😁

Its good to know lots of people aren't shy. Id rather give what people want.

I tend to be reasonably specific, but pitch my requests at the lower end of their likely budget.

Or things where there's a broad price range.

Things like: some black gloves. Which could be £250 or could be £10... Either way, they'll be black gloves to wear with my black coat.