I have a dc with asd so a busy Christmas was never an option. December and January are my hygge months. I have some lovely fur and wool throws, furry hot water bottles, fluffy socks, lots of fake candles and aim for a warm and cosy house.
I get armloads of books from the library and charity shops and we have a good selection of board games and card games, and there’s always Netflix.
The dc will have advent calendars, but we also have some others; our nativity scene is put together one character at a time. Elves or mice move into the doll house and decorate it over December.
We like to get outside, and live by the mantra that there’s no bad weather, only the wrong clothes. We’re very lucky to have a brilliant park nearby and great walks.
We have some traditions like making a gingerbread house, baking cookies on Christmas Eve, and drying oranges studded with cloves in the oven. Not too many, that it becomes difficult to keep up.
We decorate gradually so as not to overwhelm ds, and in predictable steps. It’s surprised me how much I’ve grown to appreciate this. Each dc has a box of their decorations and we put them on the tree talking about where they came from. And after Christmas they find their own ones and we wrap them up. It’s 1:1 time with me, (and a chance to eat sweets) and something that would be another Christmas job into a special activity.
I like to keep out of the shops in December, and get my presents bought early. I also stock up on non perishables and do a big freezer-filling shop in the last week of November. That’s not ideal this year, so I’ve been spreading it out a bit and stocking up more slowly. I batch cook a bit in November so that there’s less thinking and cooking to do in December. Usually I’m planning for family gatherings as well, and I’m looking forward to dropping that burden this year. It’s a lovely slow down period for me.
I’m not sure how it will work for us this year. We slow down at home to counter the pace at school, and the excitement of the few activities we do attend. But it might feel too slow this year with nothing else to balance it out. I’m not sure.