What age did dc stop believing

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Ds is 8 1/2 and keeps asking questions about Xmas

At what age did your children realise?

Dd2 age 8, dd1 age 11 when her younger sister told her (the year after in an argument). Dd2 is quite naive

My youngest was told by an older child when he started primary so 5. He is quite a bright logical child though so I think the truth made more sense to him. My youngest is 8 and I think in her heart of heart she knows but she likes to believe. Her personality is totally different though and much more artistic and airy fairy.

we never 'did' father christmas, but around reception age dc started questions.
I would be surprised if any 8yo still properly believes tbh.

13yo dd never believed I don't think. She was just a very practical young person and rolled her eyes at the very notion. She does love to play along though.

DS is nearly 9 and believes implicitly. I worry slightly because he is very invested and deals poorly with change. I'm not sure what I'll do about it tbh.

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we never 'did' father christmas, but around reception age dc started questions. I would be surprised if any 8yo still properly believes tbh.

Lots of 8yr olds believe. Having taught primary, I can tell you it's normal for them to believe all the way through primary in many cases.

I had to tell one of mine before she moved up to secondary school

I told my DC this year, he is 10. It came up in conversation and I just confirmed it. He was totally fine about it and didn’t bat an eye!

We’ll still be doing stockings and leaving a carrot as it’s a tradition but he now knows that it’s me eating it

I dont think belief is an all or nothing thing.

We still do Santa for dds age 9 and 7 but I am certain that they probably know it is us (dd1 certain does). But equally, they both enjoy suspending their disbelief.

I think most dc probably know by 8.

DS came home from nursery aged four declaring “ I don’t believe in God or Santa”. Montessori for you

My youngest DS (5) keeps mentioning to me he doesn’t believe in Santa And that he’s sure it’s me. He’s very logical and I think really doesn’t believe. I tried the ‘what do you think’ and he replied it asked you first’.

My eldest (8) went through this stage but then I think truly did believe again. I suspect he now doesn’t but is very much playing along with it and adamant he believes. He probably is worried he will get less presents if he lets on - or maybe a part of him wants to keep it going.

I never made a huge deal of it anyway though. My sister believed until she was 11 when my DM accidentally told her assuming she knew. She still goes on about it now ...

This year DS 11yrs has told me he knows. Said he knew last year as the childminders son told him but he didn't want to tell me he knew.

I reckon do what's right for your child and family. A wee bit of magic and make believe can be lovely but I would say if it gets to the stage other kids would ridicule them it's time for honesty.

My son never believed in Santa. My daughter knew it was a con by age five.

DS was in Primary maybe Yr 2 , NDN older child told him.

I asked him not to spill to DD as we wanted to keep her in suspended belief a while .

He's 20 now , 21 by Christmas and believes he'll get an electric guitar and a load of money ( 1-2-3 awwww )

My DD13 never acknowledged that she didn't believe anymore, nor has DS10. They obviously know but we still all tongue-in-cheek talk about lists to Father Christmas.

She's a romantic at heart and just loves the whole thing so we all go along with it. not sure where she gets it from, it's not long I'm 45 and still believe

DD1 asked when she was 9. DD2 is 8 and still believes (or at least she's letting me think she does!) but I think this Christmas will be the last time.

DS was 9 last year and deeply sceptical of it all. He wouldn't go visit Santa or write a letter.

We don’t do Santa but I’d say most of dd(11)s friends stopped believing in the last year or so but many of ds(7)s friends still believe.

Humphrey that is lovely and very much what I hope will happen in our family. That we move from real belief into an understanding that it is a silly game we're playing together naturally and gently.

Dd8 still believes but I am not sure about ds10. He questions all the Santas we have seen but hasn't yet declared that he doesn't believe.

The thing that I couldn’t believe last year was how passionately they believed in the naughty elves! They were really obsessed (I had really reluctantly got them with much eye rolling, a pair for about £8 from eBay) and they were passionately enthusiastic about them and have talked about them allllll year.

Didn’t believe after 7. Although we never went over the top with Santa in our house

These threads always end up being a race to the earliest. It’s ridiculous.

I am all in at Christmas. DS was 7/8 when he didn’t believe.

I think I was 7 when I found out. I've not sold the story of santa to my kids at all although I absolutely love Christmas and the idea of santa, I just felt like I couldn't lie to them (although I don't judge anyone who does tell their kids santa is real, this is just what felt right for me). My 4.5 year old has told me santa is real though as apparently he has seen him. I think he means when we've seen someone dressed as santa but I'll let him come to his own conclusions. They know presents come from me so not sure where santa fits in anyway.

DS1 was 4 or 5 when he came and told me that Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter Bunny were all made up when I asked him why he thought that he said "Well its just obvious" DS2 was 8, he hasn't actually told us he doesn't believe but from some things he has said its clear he knows.

DD was 9 - she asked me if I was Santa, after working out what she wanted to know and knowing that I won't lie to her. She is now keeping it magic for her sibling - she was excited last year to help me "make" her siblings stocking and take her to see Santa. Of course she still got a stocking, but she was still excited to "be Santa" for her sibling (I stole the idea from FB or Instagram).