How many presents for autistic, adhd , learning difficulties 9 year old son

[starsparkle08]

Last year I went crazy and did a huge hamper from me and sack of gifts from Santa . He did appreciate it at all . I don’t no what to do this year and definitely need to do less . Any ideas of how much to do . He likes Pokemon but has loads of cards , poster , toys and he loves animal crossing but has the game , cushion etc .
I don’t no even what to buy my own son which sounds terrible . And I want him to appreciate things too. Because it does dishearten me when their is little appreciation .
He does like the hatchimals eggs too and surprise eggs etc . Clothes are good and practical but to him get thrown aside .
It makes him sound spoilt , he isn’t as doesn’t really ask for anything

( no nerf gun suggestions as I try to steer him away from anything like that even though only foam as he has terrible behavioural problems )

Thanks so much ❤️

I think 1 big present and then a few little ones. They get presents from family too, usually some of it never gets played with

Not that I can even think about Christmas yet!!

Lego. DS spent hours building at that age up until around 14.
I think around age 10 we got him an inexpensive video camera as he started making set ups and doing stop motion videos. I guess it depends on the level of his learning difficulties. DS is ADHD/ASD but v high functioning.

DS went to cubs/scouts and loved den building & being outdoors. Would your DS like something like this?
www.amazon.co.uk/Den-Kit-Company-Original/dp/B003MDD54A/ref=asc_df_B003MDD54A/?hvlocphy=9045255&linkCode=df0&hvptwo&psc=1&hvnetw=g&hvadid=309757378209&hvpone&hvlocint&hvpos&hvdev=t&hvdvcmdl&hvqmt&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&hvtargid=pla-562266072656&hvrand=13251115796397080137

I don’t see clothes as a present. Maybe for an older teen who wants some sort of designer stuff, but clothing is essential & not a gift imo.
DS usually had one big gift and half a dozen cheaper gifts & a stocking with little bits of tat.

Why are you thinking about Christmas in July?

Clothes are not really a present for a 9 year old boy, unless you are trying to pad out a stocking. So it's not surprising if he didn't seem to appreciate them. I think 5 months in advance is too soon to buy, his interests could easily change in that time.
As for positive suggestions, my boys used to like art supplies, lego or similar, dvds( probably no use anymore) books, and games, either tabletop or computer games. Some of their friends used to like sports equipment / strips. They don't really need a lot of things at that age.

Your right shouldn’t be worrying about Christmas yet especially as his birthday next month , makes no sense I no 😬

I have a 9 year old with autism too and he does not like any material items. I keep telling family to to buy him toys etc as they never get used but they never listen.

What he does like though is activities. He loves trips to a local theme park, train rides, horse riding etc. So now at Christmas/birthdays we give him vouchers for things he enjoys doing. Last year we wrapped them up in little boxes to give him something to unwrap, it worked really well.

@weepingwillow22

I really like that idea a lot 😊