How many Christmas presents would you buy...

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In this scenario?

How many Christmas presents roughly would you buy for a 4 year old that come from: mum& dad, Santa, one set of grandparents and one set of great grandparents? She'd get things from another set of grandparents but if you were responsible for buying from that many people, how many would roughly be a good idea? She's getting about 10 books so not including those. TIA.

These would be the only ones she opens on the actual day too.

1 from great grandparents, 1 or 2 from grandparents. We do 1 from Santa, plus 7 or 8 very small stocking fillers ( bath stuff, pens, stickers etc) . 1 or 2 main from parents plus a few smaller items ( clothes, puzzles, books etc).

We do:

1 main & all stocking fillers (10?) from Father Christmas.

9 - 10 from us

3 from my parents

1 from MIL

3 from Auntie & Uncle

I suppose it depends on what you buy! Last year we did one big from Father Christmas, plus maybe 5 small stocking fillers (book, stickers etc). Grandparents tend to do one big and a couple of smaller but useful things like pyjamas. Great grandparents do one medium /2 small gifts normally, like a puzzle/book and clothes.

It depends what she wants. Quantity is not important.

One bike. A couple of smaller toys. Selection box. Stocking from Santa. Ten books.

Bike could be replaced with dolls house, play house etc.

Why don't you wait and see what she wants...

We always do 3 from parents.
7 to 10 stocking fillers (including fruit and sweets/chocolate)

Grandparents usually give 2.
Other family members usually 1.

@Courtney555 I'm not asking what to get, I know to wait but I don't want to overwhelm her so was getting a good idea of what would be a good amount from everyone on the day

I just think, you can't know quantity until you know what she wants.

DS got a bloody expensive bike. So he got about 6 very very small presents alongside it. That's 7.

If he hadn't had the bike, he'd have had maybe 10 nice presents. 5 small ones. 3 very very small ones. That's 18.

Not being argumentative (whilst sounding really argumentative ) I can't see how you can answer quantity without knowing what she wants.

That's a good point @Courtney555 she does have a bike and dolls house so unless it's a scooter or something similar, it'll probably be physically smaller items

Ok, so:

Stocking is from Santa. And that's all that Santa brings, so DC appreciate that the big presents are from mummy and daddy. Comprises about 6 things all under a tenner.

Mummy and daddy, if no main present, and already got ten books, would probably go for, two bigger presents, four smaller, and four small small ones.

Nanny and grandad. Probably 1 bigger and two smaller presents.

Great grandparents. They like to give classic type things, already thinking our children are unbelievably spoiled I'd go for two small presents, that are quite twee, maybe a personalised jewellery box.

I tend to go by budget rather than quantity as for me that's easier to manage. Have you considered the popular minimalist gift giving lists? Things like want need wear read or slightly longer lists of about 7 or so categories (ie. Make/build, share, stuff like that). Check Pinterest for ideas.

I would say you're right that she may get overwhelmed by having too much as kids that age open something and want to play with it rather than move into next thing to unwrap.

2-3 from grandparents, 10 from santa plus stocking and 2-3 from parents. That's what I usually do.

I think it is easy to overwhelm children with presents so my best advice would be to stagger opening so not a massive pile all at once. I do stocking with little toys, lindor balls :) Big present from Santa, second
main present Mum and Dad. A couple of presents from everyone else.

It soon adds up. I'd rather spend more money on something that will get played with longterm then plastic, annoying stuff that gets played with once and then banished to the bottom of the toybox because those five phrases get old pretty fast.

For us, it would be one or two gifts depending on what they are from grandparents and great grandparents, Santa brings the stocking and one other small to medium gift which they ask him for when they visit him, then off parents 1 large, 1 or 2 medium, and about 5 smaller gifts. I tend to theme gifts so they all work together, rather than lots of different things. So large for us could be sylvanian dolls house, medium, a sylvanian tram and polly pocket mall, small, a couple of polly pocket shops, some extras for the sylvanian house, and sticker books. That way, its more like the main present is split between the whole gift selection and as they open more they have more additions to a set. It all depends on budget though. My 3 also get shared gifts on top of that, maybe another 2 or 3 between them. And I theme the grandparents gifts etc when they ask for ideas too.

1big present from Santa plus their stocking, 4 from parents and one from any others that give gifts.

We do my have a set number. Last year our boys had bikes, so from us, they had bikes, helmet, a board game and then something they had asked for from Santa. We never buy more than 4-5 main gifts from us, and there is only ever one present from Santa. My mum normally gives two gifts (a main present and something small - maybe a little puzzle or bath toy) and DILs usually give 3-4 presents.

I don't think there are hard and fast rules. There's quite a range in how many gifts people on mn give.

Personally we do around 10 little things in a stocking and one bigger gift from FC. Then intend to give around 10 gifts, but often end up giving more like 15 (books are my downfall as we give a lot). A lot of these would be small gifts though. I buy a single gift from dm and a single gift from dbro for them also.

We avoid out dc getting overwhelmed by opening gifts slowly a few at a time and then having time to play with what they have opened. When the dc were tiny they were still opening gifts days after Christmas.

Everybody is different how they do things for example some people do main presents from santa and some do main presents from mom and dad, we do the stocking and about 8/9 from Santa including the main present but some of these could be markers or crayola set etc then their present from Mom and Dad is their christmas eve box which has Pjs, hot chocolate, gingerbread men biscuits,bath bomb, christmas book and dvd and a small toy, so it kills two birds with one stone its a present from us but it would be things we would be getting anyway so they have a bath and relax with their hot choclate / goodies and a dvd while we are prepping for next days dinner, then from grandparents they would get one present. I would start now as you mean to go on as once you start something it's hard to back track, so if you feel she will be overwhelmed make sure presents from grandparents and great grandparents is just one present and then that's what she will be used to going forward. We used to get 10 from Santa but last year I cut it back to 8 because they have so much they didnt notice, also be careful what you do about a main present as this sets a precedent also. I started off always getting a main one like a bike etc and now I am running out of ideas but they expect it now so it's hard to change it. Also with regards to the stocking I used to buy lots of little toys etc and yes they would play with them on the day but then they would be left on a shelf in the playroom, so last year I put in a voucher for the cinema and a large packet of popcorn and jellies and tied a ribbon around it, I also put in consumables they wouldnt normally get like small cans of pringles a mini can of fizzy drink and I put in the mini cereal boxes, they were delighted with these things and the best part was they were all used. So I would start with fewer things and then as she gets older you can always increase things if you feel it's right buts it's easier to increase rather than decrease.

Sorry I didnt realise how long my post was and just noticed this post is from a few weeks ago, as you can see I am just flicking through threads at the moment.

Vaguely what mine got when little: One gift from each set of grandparents. One main gift from parents. A few (say five) from various Christmas characters (Santa, Rudolf, Frosty etc). Maybe a gift from aunts or uncles if they visited near Christmas (not a regular thing). Stocking had the odd gift from random people (like the cleaning lady or friends) then padded out with treats like chocolate, socks, stickers etc. I remember my kids wanting to get the same amount of gifts each, and the value was not considered.

We seem to have fallen into the habit of 1 biggish thing they ask for and possibly 1 they need.
Then 6/7 smaller things beyond that, clothes, game, books, colouring pens etc.

With other gifts coming from two sets of GPs and 4 Aunties. One GPs gift will be under the tree the other maybe not handed over for a few days (I try to avoid giving them ideas from DC list)

Normally by now I have a bunch of ideas this year I'm really struggling so thinking I will cut down on stuff.