Birthday gift for a 14 year old

[Anxiousmummy123]

Hi all.

Help..... I need to get a gift for my husbands 14 year old neice. We are not very close and only meet up once or twice a year at birthdays and christmas.

I messaged my sister in law about what to get her daughter for her birthday and she completely ignored the message. It was on watsapp and I can see its been read. In the meantime my husband has messaged her and recieved a reply instantly.

I feel really like there is always tension under the surface but no one openly talks about how they feel. Its not the first time my texts have been ignored and I just feel its really rude.

I still need to get something as ovbiously not the childs fault the adults can't seem to get along.... I just wondered what you all thought about sending a gift card for £20. My sister in law didn't reply to my messages so its making it hard to know what to do.

Is that a bit stingy? Please help. How much would you give considering the circumstances or would you still go and buy a gift and attempt a meet?

(Fyi im feeling low atm due to personal circumstances at christmas. I don't want any conflict with anyone right now so messaging my sister in law to ask why she didn't reply isn't an option)

Please help! Xx

At 14 my DDs would have loved either £20 cash in a card or a gift voucher. If she's into makeup maybe a Superdrug voucher. I'm a wee bit out of touch with shopping on the high street for teen fashion but DD2 would bite your hand off for an ASOS voucher.

Dd also 14 would most appreciate a gift card.
Superdrug, Primark, Topshop, New Look even Amazon, Starbucks or Costa

How about a voucher for a cinema local to her? Few teenagers don't enjoy seeing one film or another.

Also, I would have my husband get the girl's own number. She's bound to have a phone at that age and then you and he can then ask her directly next year .

Thanks everyone. Any advice to help with sil? X

I don't always get along with my SIL. I just rise above it - smile and nod. The fallout if we both actually spoke our mind and I called her out isn't worth it. Do something nice with your family to distract yourself.