Who has been alone all over Christmas?

[Ohdear3]

this isn't my first Christmas alone but can't really remember much about the other ones maybe due to comfort drinking. However this crimbo no drink for me as taking antibiotics.. just stayed inert in an armchair most of time snacking n bingeing on tv..
Too proud to attend anything local run by charities etc..even hiding shameful fact from neighbours that am alone by sneaking into my home in the dark..daft I know but..

So all in all up shit street n hating predicament atm..

Anyone else ?

Ohdear3

I am not alone this Christmas, but may well have been if my DB hadn’t decided to visit.

Unfortunately, the more we live alone and the older we get, the more likely an alone Christmas becomes.

There is no shame in being alone, so please, please, don’t feel that.

I spend long periods with no one else around and over time have learned to relish the space and freedom that gives me.

The secret to a really happy alone Christmas is lovely food, good books, a stack of DVD’s (or a months Now subscription) and a long walk.

I hope you can enjoy the rest of your week and wish you a happy 2020.

@flyingsouthwith
That is so heartening to hear...thanku for post. Agree with what you think really but my word do find it hard at crimbo😔

It's hard

A lot of people don't seem to understand the massive difference in being alone and being lonely. Been alone is nothing to be ashamed about, I'm confused at you sneaking in due to your neighbours though?

I'm 36 and if I dare open up a out feeling lonely it gets shrugged off or I'm told to put myself out there. Sometimes I think I'd get a better response if I told people I was an alcoholic or had an expensive coke habit.

I have. I won't be seeing anyone till Saturday. I'm enjoying myself but it has taken years to get to this point. I'm sorry you're finding it hard.

@iprefergin hope ur okay today..I'm wondering if peeps shrug it off when you say ur lonely because you appear to have everything going for you?.. that is only surface though ..they need it explaining to them, why don't you try that?

I'm keeping a low profile from the neighbours becos they're all celebrating with family and I'm all alone👀

@ilovesooty 👍

I know the above advice is meant kindly, but I do think some Mumsnetters forget that films and baths and walks are just part of life if you live alone. Nothing special.

@Ohdear3 perhaps, I guess no one really knows what the other is going through.

I'm ok and will be ok but already dreading the 'how was your Christmas' chat.

I agree with you Ostrichfeather but I do live alone and have done for a long time.

My way of coping with an ‘alone’ Christmas is not to feel lonely, but just to enjoy the hours of down time that it brings.

@Ostrichfeather @flyingsouthwith
also agree, you don't have to reply but I totally get why some people decide to enjoy this time alone and make the best of the peace and have 'me time'. However I think it's because I was lucky enough to have really happy family Christmases as a child that I think there is something irrevocably wrong when faced with nothing but my own company...plus living near busy supermarket shops and in family oriented area of london rubs it in.. each year I say best to go away somewhere or volunteer but even that idea goes against grain!🤯 and then i think later thank your lucky stars there's a roof over ur head and food to eat..

All a bit 'f**d' up to be honest.