I wish people would stop buying me...

[Deminism]

Ok so I know I am an arsehole and I am lucky to be bought anything. But, I wish people would stop buying me things with my initial on. I am so initial branded that everybody must be guessing my name everywhere I go. Purse. Washbag. Bag. A candle. Keyring. Mug. Aaaargh.

You?

It does show how different we all are, about half of these things would be great gifts for me and about half wouldn't.

I went through a phase of getting washbags, and then I had a towel phase, then scarves.

book tokens!!

Mugs, dp got me a mug one year even though he knows I dont drink tea or coffee, also working in education guarantees I get gifted mugs. Like a pp said I usually use them as pen pots in my office.

Also wine or prosecco, I've repeatedly told friends and colleagues I dont like them, yet I always end up with them. I try to re gift them as much as I can, but still have a cupboard full of unwanted wine.

Hand cream or body butters. I love a toiletry set with body washes, but I have so many body butters and hand creams that I dont know what to do with them. I used to let dd make potions with them in the bath for a while.

I have a severe nut allergy- Carry epipens and everything, yet my Aunt buys my chocolate coated peanuts EVERY YEAR 😂 usually end up swapping them for my dads After Eight mints haha

Anything except food.

I’ve got no room in my house for stuff and funnily enough DH never gets given tat

My in-laws don’t really know me well enough to get me something I’d like and my parents are terrible gift givers!

Luckily my siblings and friends get it right.

Yes I know I sound ungrateful I just wish people wouldn’t bother...

'Stuff' for the house. Until recently, we lived in a tiny flat with no space for 'stuff' and a tenancy agreement that stipulated nothing to go on the walls. People would still get us ornaments and random things to hang on the wall.

I'm worried that now we're in a house with a much more laidback landlord, people will decide we need more 'stuff' now, but I like our clutter-free home!

Totally agree StealthPolarBear, flowers are a pain in the arse.

I started off reading this post thinking that now I’m separated from my husband I don’t get any gifts so I would love anything.

Then I read on and it made me laugh out loud.

Then I realised - everyone buys me bloody signs to hang up! I’m sick of them!! If I’ve got one inspirational quote printed into a wooden plaque then I’ve got one hundred! Sometimes quote randomly posted to me from friends.... when did I become the person who loves a sign?!

Clarins. Or any skin care for that matter.

Scented candles and incense sticks - two asthma sufferers in the house. Everybody knows that. They are even good enough not to light their own when we're visiting, because of said asthma .... yet still we get them as presents!

@StealthPolarBear I'm am with you on the flowers! They just poss me off. Only give me flowers if you will arrange them.in a vase, (including unwrapping, flower food, trimming leaves and stems and disposing of the mess) refresh water, then throw them away and wash the vase out

Otherwise, don't bother.

Body lotion, or any gift set which includes body lotion. Cheap toiletries. Chocolate. Scarves.

A tin of biscuits just for me and I don't even really like biscuits!

Things with owls on. Looking at you mil for this. I do not love owls no matter what you have convinced yourself of so I do not really want socks, necklaces and handbags with them on.

Candles, candles and now candles with warnings of death on them ☠️
I have an overactive two year old and am not having any naked flames in this house for a long time.
Feel free to pass on any cat things you don't like though 😊

I only get presents from my parents, DH and the kids, so don't get anything unwanted. This year, my best friend got me an ornament from the tree which is perfect, but I'm never inundated with chocolates or wine because, as a rule, my friends and I simply don't exchange gifts.

I buy flowers for my mum as she loves them, but I do get them in an Aqua Box so no faffery required.

There's part of me that'd love a hideous Soap and Glory set or a make up advent calendar, but they're not the kind of thing you buy for yourself - they must always be begrudgingly accepted

Wine - we virtually never drink it, especially not sparkling wine.

Scented candles - just don't use them, I worry I'll forget to blow them out at bedtime (I potter around in the evening and don't tend to sit in one room).

Any set containing body lotion as I don't use it.

Scarves - I am very fussy about these and only wear them if it's below zero.

Books, handcream and crafty stuff all welcome, also giftcards.

Bayliss and Harding stuff
Flavoured cheap gin (I like plain gin and only certain brands)
MIL went through a phase of buying me pink everything (PJs, socks, pens etc) I am not a pink person at all. She also buys me a pocket diary every year when I only use A5 academic diaries as that's what I need for work.

Soap and glory. I don’t know why but I get it every year and most of it ends up donated to charity

My ex mil used to always buy me exercise dvds. She had an issue with my weight!

Willow Tree figures....I like them but have nowhere to put them.

Expletive...do donate your sparkling energy here

Energy? I meant WINE

Presents in general. l'm not ungrateful, but a few years ago my friends and l agreed we all had too much stuff, don't need anything, so we'd either go forgo presents altogether and donate the money to a good cause of our choosing, or do that and give a very small token present.
lt worked well at first. The 'token' presents were usually pet treats which was fine, most of us have cats or rabbits.
However this year parcels have arrived despite no discussion about changing things. l actually opened some so l could see what they were, and ended up ordering last minute stuff from Not On the High Street.
l'm going to have a chat after New Year and see if we can revert to the original agreement. l'd much rather donate the money to a good cause (we all said we'd give to small local ones, rather than mainstream ones). Besides which it's cost me nearly £20 in postage which l'd much rather have given to someone who actually needs it. lt's a lovely thought but it's just more 'stuff' that l wouldn't buy myself. l'm trying to declutter as it is!