Christmas with someone I'm not keen on

[nannytothequeen]

My kids and I are spending Christmas with my friend and her family. I invited them to mine but my friend said she would rather host. It's a couple of hours drive away. So far so good. Now I've been told that plans have changed and we are all going to spend the day with their friends who live close by. I am not at all keen on these friends. I find that the woman is very competitive when I'm around always trying to prove to me that she's closer to my friend and telling little inside stories and jokes. It gets right on my nerves. The bloke is ok. Just a bit passive it all goes over my friends head and now I am dreading what was going to be a lovely day.

It doesn't seem appropriate that you're dreading the day as it will be apparent to your children.

What would happen if you didn't go?

Why don't you just stay at home?

No, I wouldn't go either. I don't cope well with plan changes though and certainly wouldn't spend Christmas at someone elses unless they were family.

I also think it's rude that she didn't ask you. Just told you this was a change of plan.

Aren't you beginning to feel quite ill?

I would pull out. Do it now rather than leaving it. Say the kids don't feel comfortable going to someone's house they don't know for Christmas so apologies but you'll stay home instead.

Just stay at home then.

And I agree it's unfair of your friend just to switch plans on you at this point. That's why it's ok to pull out.

You don't have to go OP. If your friend lives nearer to this other friend then they may see each other more often, is your friend someone you've known for a long time but don't see very often now?

What a terrible time for you to get v&d, I’m so sorry OP

Nope wouldn’t be going

Don’t go. You’ve got a couple of days to get stuff sorted and stay home

My kids will be disappointed not to go as my friend has kids their age and they all get on very well.

She has changed the plans. Just tell her that this isn't what you agreed to, and that you will get together another time. Your kids will get over it. Why put yourself through a crap Christmas Day?

Forget travelling hours just to be miserable.

Send the following then switch off your phone.

"Hi, thank's for the invite but I think with the plan changes we'll stay at home."

Sounds like you have been dumped for a better offer?