Not giving a present when they've given us one?1

[Funkyslippers]

OH's sister, who we have v little contact with due to OH falling out with her, has dropped round a present for my 2 DD's (10 and 16) while we were out today. We usually exchange gifts at Christmas for the kids (she has 2 boys - 18 and 21) and at birthdays but for the last couple of years she hasn't acknowledged the DD's birthdays at all. I bumped into her recently and she said "have a nice Christmas" so I assumed I wouldn't see her before Christmas and we weren't doing presents. Now I find she's bought my DDs something! I haven't got her boys anything and would struggle to get the presents to them now. Would I be really mean not giving them anything? Not sure why I'm worried mind you, it's OH's sister not mine!!! I don't think OH cares either way

At the ages they are I would give them money.

If you have the boys personal email addresses I’d send them each an e- Amazon voucher

Can't your OH sort it out as it's his family and his falling out?

Your DN are adults perhaps consider 18 to be the cut off?

At 18 and 21, are they not at the stage when you’d stop giving them Christmas gifts anyway? I’d just leave it.

Maybe dropping gifts off was her way of extend an olive branch and to try and make amends?