Duplicate presents & grandparents

[Wetdogloveshubert]

Christmas is both a much-loved and anxiety-inducing event in my house, thanks to DH's upbringing with divorced parents (now very much fine, joint present buying, shared event-attendance etc., but a huge amount of upset in the past).

Both my and DH's parents have purchased the same Lego set for DD(6) for Christmas. Whichever set of parents we ask to exchange the present will be offended, and if no exchange is sought in advance DD will tell one set of grandparents (who she will see on consecutive days) that she already has it, and cause disappointment that way.

Is there any way around this?

Tell both sets that they've both bought the same thing? Ask them of they have any suggestions for a way to deal with it?

@DonPablo, obvious when you mention it

Tell them both.

It's Lego. Possibly the easiest toy to swap for a different one in the same range. Whichever pair of grandparents you get on with best just say "I have just discovered she has getting Set A coming from other grandparents but she also would like Set B." Then offer to take charge of the exchanging it in the shop for them.

Oh and if they want to appear 'better' than the other grandparents them make sure Set B is a more expensive one. That will make them feel smug but your daughter won't care - she will have loads of Lego!

Teach your dd in advance how to accept a gift graciously, without telling the GPS it's a duplicate, and then swap yourself afterwards. I always warned mine before birthdays and Christmas that if they got a duplicate or something they didn't like, to thank the giver nicely and then we would sort it out afterwards. She's 6, so definitely old enough to understand.

They're your parents. Tell them you already know your child is getting that set. Don't see how people can be offended. If it was me I'd be happy I was warned and had time to go to exchange the gift. Or everyone could have had a good laugh at how of all the lego sets out there they picked the same one!

Tell both grandparents?

Tell both sets of grandparents is a good idea.

I think 6 is old enough for dc to receive gifts graciously. We have a family mantra for before birthdays and christmas:
What do you say if you get a present you like?
Thank you.
What do you say if you get a present you don't like?
Thank you.
What do you say if you get a present you already have?
Thank you.

Yup, teach dd not to say anything so rude!