Is there a thread for those that are alone this Christmas?

[StillDumDeDumming]

Just that really- I can’t find one and I could do with a chat. I can make the best of things but it is a shit upon shit situation!

Hi, not quite alone but it will be a lonely xmas due to illness of relatives and relationship difficulties. But I know that is not the same as being by yourself (that might be me next year though) What is your situation?

I wont be completely alone but my children will be with their father this Christmas so it will be very quiet and lonely. Here to listen and talk

Thank you. My ex has not allowed the children to my house for Christmas for years. They’re teens but don’t want to upset him. (My dd only just being allowed to mine at all very recently because she quite dramatically put her foot down. My ds is an adult now and we get on very well but he doesn’t like my dp who now lives with me).

I have been able to take them to my mums in the past for a few hours but this year that looks very unlikely to happen.

I think what’s bothering me is that I can completely cope with this (I’ve coped with worse) but I can’t actually plan to do anything else - my dd May just turn up at some point if she gets fed up of her dad. So in some ways I will be waiting and disappointed. I know it’s a bit odd sounding but I don’t want to write too much for lots of reasons! It’s a very very delicate situation.

I mean there are places I could invite myself to, but I think that’ll make me sadder. My dp is away with his children in another part of the country. I have been invited there but if I go that’ll definitely be used against me.

The thing is that their dad never celebrates Christmas and I always did it all and loved it.

I will be OK. I know and in some ways that I see my dd at all is an improvement.

I know it’s only another day and I’m quite good at being sensible for everyone’s well being. But it feels a bit wobbly

I think a plan might be to have a firm plan for after Christmas Day? Although that is difficult if it involves dc as it gets sabotaged. And years of this have played with their ability to resist that. I perhaps should’ve gone to court but I could have only seen it making it worse for them.

Maybe friends will be open to something when they don’t have the obligation of the day itself. I love having a house full. Oh I’ve made myself teary now!

Not only will I be on my own it is very likely that i will be in hospital in an isolation room after a spell of chemo which takes my immune system away. I am not allowed out of my room until they reach a level that I as safe to leave. Five weeks on last spell :(

One of the nurses said that its really good fun - they have a buffet and carol singing. That will be really great when i will just be able to listen from what I call my bedsit,

At least i will have a TV with freeview but there are only so may homes under the hammer and law and order that a person can watch,

I started one a few weeks ago asking if anyone chooses to spend Christmas alone, as due to a family fall out/dynamics I was facing this.

Now that it's going to be a certainty and based on the responses I got in the thread I am feeling absolutely fine about it. Just trying to focus on the positive bits

Blimey Ceecee - and 5 weeks?! I actually can’t imagine that. I remember trying to get out of hospital having had dc2 so I could see dc1 who had chicken pox and that really doesn’t compare at all!

How do you pass the time? Are you well enough to do anything? God, that’s miserable

Supercee I read that thread. I’m glad you’re able to step away. Done of what you said though made me think. Like, yes I can eat what I like and make Netflix list- but will I actually be in tears the whole time. That kind of thing is on my mind.

And I can’t really talk to my dp about it because he kind of feels bad I think for leaving me but he shouldn’t at all. I think it’s great he’s going to his kid’s new home. They’ll have a great time together.

Stilldum, thanks for asking. Last time apart from 2 or 3 bad days from the week of chemo ( and an infection in the last week) I didn't feel too bad. Bit dizzy and had to be careful not to fall and bang something as my platelets were low and my blood would not have clotted.
Most of the time was just very boring.

I'm on my own this year, I was last year too.
I don't really mind, I won't bore you all with it but it's to do with Dd's boyfriend having anxiety.
I'll just mooch around, eat cheese and watching crap on telly, plus I'll talk to friends and Dd on the phone.
I might see if there's somewhere in my nearest city open for coffee and drive up.
I'll be on here too of course, maybe we should have a thread for the day to chat?