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What do we feel about re-gifting?

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NormaLouiseBates · 14/11/2019 10:55

Just that really. Things are quite tight this year for one reason and another and I'd rather spend the little available funds I have on my own children. I've got things that have been bought for me that I'll never use... nice things like Ted Baker jewellery, OPI nail polish sets etc that I think would be good matches to some of the people I need to buy for (doesn't help that I've got about 6 birthdays between now and Christmas too!) but is it mean, crap, whatever?

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Themazeoflife · 14/11/2019 11:05

Just don't regift to the person who originally gifted it to yourself.

WreathsAndRopes · 14/11/2019 11:05

Do you remember who gave you these things so they don't find out and think you ungrateful.

Also only if it's recent, especially make-up type things don't really last, and fashion things date easily.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 14/11/2019 11:07

no issues- someone recently gave me a gift, set of alcohol with alcoholic chocolates...do not like (I'd rather have some cadburys)....why not gift them to someone else than have them be wasted.
I also do not care if Im regifted something as long as it not been used etc,

SnowsInWater · 14/11/2019 11:14

I think there is nothing wrong with regifting but there is obviously a difference between “I have been given some tat so let’s pass it on to some other poor bugger” and “I am never going to use that lovely makeup set and I know my Aunt would love it”.

ysmaem · 14/11/2019 11:32

I won a couple of lovely gift sets from the body shop couple of weeks back in a raffle which I'm gifting as Christmas gifts if that counts. I'm not gonna use them but I know the recipients will and will also save me a good £40 🤷‍♀️

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 14/11/2019 11:37

I got bought a hideous purse by my MIL for my birthday - can I give it back to her for Xmas?!

eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 14/11/2019 12:28

We often regift and if kids get duplicate bday/xmas presents they go in the present box as will get gifted at a bday party somewhere along the line

GrumpyHoonMain · 14/11/2019 12:32

Honestly as the Ted Baker stuff is expensive I would tell the person who gifted it to me first that you don’t want it, so they have the option of taking it back for a refund or regifting if wanted.

alwaysthinkingofsleep · 14/11/2019 12:40

Regifting is fine as long as it adheres to the following rules;
• never regift to the original "gifter"
• regift must match intended giftee (I've had some absolute shit regifted to me & as a result I now put in minimal effort to this persons gifts!)
• mustn't be used
• mustn't be something that dates badly
• must not be something which can be returned to an identifiable shop for fear of regifting status being discovered (this usually only applies if it is an 'old' gift)
• duplicates of children's toys are perfectly acceptable to regift as long as the above apply (we have had 5 Duplo trains over 3 years...)

Knittedfairies · 14/11/2019 12:52

I've no problem with re-gifting but do remember to remove the original gift tag; I'm looking at you NDN and that box of chocolates you gave me...

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NormaLouiseBates · 14/11/2019 13:03

I had the items for my birthday a few months ago so I think it's a bit late to tell the original giver.

All of the rules would be absolutely adhered to Wink I'd give the make up to my make-up/cosmetics mad niece, for example. And I've made note who bought them for me originally. How awkward would that be, to give something back to the person who'd bought it for you? And omg, who would give something used?!

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MikeUniformMike · 14/11/2019 13:15

What alwaysthinkingofsleep posted.

alwaysthinkingofsleep · 14/11/2019 13:48

@NormaLouiseBates yes! Had used body cream from my grandma...though I would forgive her anything ☺️
I also had a beauty set with the raffle ticket still on, another no no 🤣

livingthegoodlife · 14/11/2019 13:54

I had the situation today on my DD birthday where she has received a drawing booking from cousin. Only thing is grannie gave all the children these last Christmas. So now DD has two and I'm guessing cousin has re-gifted. It is also a bit old for her. Feels thoughtless to me.

I only tend to re-gift with generic children's birthday party type gifts. Not within family or people I deeply care about.

patchworkelephant123 · 14/11/2019 13:55

Noooo I hate regifting, unless it's children's toys in which case I get that! 90% of the time it's obvious it's a regift

PhrightomenaButterfly · 14/11/2019 13:55

Most people would see it as tight, I wish I could do it.

30somethingandtired · 14/11/2019 21:23

I love a bit of re-gifting, I do it whenever I can. Great way to reduce waste and save cash.

I have a few friends and relatives with children a bit younger than mine. If DD gets duplicates or unwanted gifts then they go in the 'present box' ready to be re-gifted. Same goes if I get toiletries etc that I won't use. It's handy to have a stash of things ready for emergencies.

isspacethefinalfrontier · 14/11/2019 21:31

Yes pass the crap

Make 2 people get gifts they don't want.

It was a crap gift when you got it, why should you be the only one to suffer.

MamaWeasel · 14/11/2019 22:05

But the person you have in mind as the new giftee might be perfectly matched to a gift that you received but cannot/will not use.

isspacethefinalfrontier · 14/11/2019 22:53

But the person you have in mind as the new giftee might be perfectly matched to a gift that you received but cannot/will not use.

highly unlikely, but tell yourself that if you want.

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 14/11/2019 23:00

I'm not fussed about being regifted something as long as its not half used, half eaten, out of date food/drink or very obviously from the back of grandmas wardrobe OR if its something i originally gave you. if its clean, in its proper packaging and otherwise like new, ive no issues with it. It makes sense to regift if its something nice/decent that you know you wont ever use, and you know someone else will get some pleasure out of it, rather than it end up in landfill.

Esmerelda1988 · 14/11/2019 23:01

Go for it. This year I will be re-gifting with a twist by giving someone a present that I originally gave them in 2018 for their birthday which they opened at my house and left there, and have never mentioned since. The beauty of it is, even if they recognise it, they can't possibly say anything as this would only serve to highlight their previous lack of appreciation. Ho Ho Ho.

PinkJam · 15/11/2019 09:46

@Esmerelda1988 Grin Grin

SingaporeSlinky · 15/11/2019 10:01

I think it’s fine as long as you regift to someone you genuinely think will appreciate it, as others have said.
Last Christmas my SIL told me she’d already bought half my present and asked what I’d like as the other half (we have a set budget each) so I told her I’d like a Christmas tree decoration. The other half was clearly regifted, (I won’t say what it was in case she sees this, but I just know there’s no way she would have bought the thing she gave me, and definitely not from this designer shop,) but actually I loved it, and it was worth way more than our budget. I was happy as I got that, plus the smaller thing I’d actually asked for, and she got to regift something she presumably had no use for, and spend under budget on the other ‘half’.

ballpitbonanza · 15/11/2019 12:42

I personally hate it and find it so insulting. Unless that person is on a really tight budget but this has never been my experience.