How much do you typically spend on parents / PILs?

[Woodlandwitch]

Normally try to keep to a budget of around £40-50 per parents (we have a big family)

But parents help us out so much with the children that I’m wondering if people spend more in similar situation?

I spend £200 to £250 on my mum but my dad is dead and I don't have PILs, so I don't have those extra costs, although regardless I would always spend more on my own mum/family because well, they are my family.

Up to £200 on pils and £15 ea on my dps. They have very different expectations around gifts and they would all be appalled if we mixed up the gifts!

I don't even think about what I spend on my Mom, I enjoy spoiling her. I'd guess £300 plus.. my Dad about £100 and in laws as little as possible about £60 between them and I begrudge that to be honest...

Like the OP, we spend in the region of £30-50 on each of our parents - something nice and thoughtful, but not extravagant. Both my parents and PILs would be quite cross if we bought them expensive pressies ifykwim...they're both well off enough to buy nice things if they want them, so appreciate being thought of but don't want us to spend lots of money on them!

£10, my mum and step dad tell me not to buy them anything or to buy them their favourite drink/wine. I’m shocked that people spend £200+, I don’t spend that much on my dc’s and most people in ,y family don’t bother buying for adults.

We spend around £70 on my parents and £20 on the in laws, in laws are the type to just shove £20 in a card but my parents put real thought into gift buying so it feels fair.

About £30 each or a joint present for £60ish. We don’t have the money to spend hundreds. I don’t even spend that on my DH or DC.

C. £25-35 per parent

Up to £40 for mine, DH usually spends more on his although he's been getting less extravagant over the years.

This year we've cancelled all grown up present exchanging as we'll have a new baby. It's such a relief!

We club together with siblings to get something for around £100 for our parents - so split 3 ways just over £30 each.

About £20-30 per person. In your case maybe a special extra 'thank you for all the help gift' would be nice.

It depends. My brothers are shit and my mums on her own, disabled and doesn't get to do 'nice' things very often unless I arrange them, so quite often I will book various things throughout the year and 'give' them on Christmas day.

So it's probably a few hundred, but often the cost is spread throughout the year and is mostly things I will join her on and enjoy too.

When dhs parents were both alive, it would be about £50 each.

About £500-600 between them.

DM worked her arse off as a single mother and as a teen, DF took me on as his own. So now that I can, I get them really lovely things for birthdays and Christmas. Some joint, some separate.

Nan, maybe £150? That's more in line with non excessive pressies I think.

About £20
One year I spent £50 for my mums milestone birthday and got told off for spending too much.

We do about £50 each. You could include some gifts from the children saying thank you too. Maybe a little personalised gift?

Probably about £80 each. It's not a conscious decision to spend that amount though, I generally start buying in September and when their pile looks sufficient I stop, so it can vary.

We do a holiday in our cottage (so free to stay) but add in a package of ferry tickets, meal vouchers and cinema tickets along with NT membership. I guess that’s around £350 -£400 depending on ferry times, restaurant etc.
We do them smaller surprise presents to open on the day - a single malt, a cardigan, a soup maker, a suitcase or similar. Price will vary
I also do the stockings- magazine, book, chocolates, socks/tights, gift card for restaurants, scarf, soap etc. Probably about £75-100 per stocking.

Around the £200 mark for Mum and around £100 for Dad. I usually get them a treat that we can enjoy together too ie Andre Rieu tickets or some other music concert including train tickets etc.

Around £40 each for my parents. Partners Mum is the same. We spend less on his Dad and his wife as we’re not that close and he begrudges spending anything on them really. Around £15 for the two of them, just a token gift really.

About £200 on MIL (she doesn’t get presents from anyone else, so I always feel a bit sad about it).

About £125 each on FIL, SIL, SIL and BIL

About £150 total on my DF and his GF

£10-20. The same on DH etc.

I'm amazed by some of these budgets! We spend £10 per set of parents. They're all divorced so it's four couples in total. I would love to spend more but we can't afford to.

I'd say about £50 each on mum, dad, MIL and FIL

I spend £50-£80 each now.
When dc were little and they helped us out more, rather than buy bigger/better presents for birthday/Christmas I tried to do/buy things throughout the year - paid for ironing twice a month, made a booklet of vouchers (drive to the beach for an ice cream, massage or nails done at a beauty salon, lifts to/from a night out, etc). Didn't cost me much, but hopefully made them feel appreciated at the time.

We tend to spend about £30 per person on DM and the in-laws. (Two sets of parents/step-parents on DH side)