Sharing Christmas Long Distance

[cosmicbabe]

For the past 5 years, me and my ex have shared Christmas Day at mine. He's come to me. He now wants to swap each year as I've met someone and I'm not sure what's normal between ex's and what everyone normally does?

He lives 4 hours away so this would mean when it's his turn to have our son I wouldn't see him as I have nowhere to stay when he's there however my ex has a house down where I live so will get to see our son when it's my turn.

I want it to be fair for everyone and this will be a big change for our son.

Thanks x

No one? 🙁

Why don’t you ask for your post to be moved to the relationships board? I think you might get quite a wide range of responses there.

Pre- divorce, post children, we used to alternate spending Christmas with each of our families...since we split we alternate between ourselves: one of has the kids for Christmas, the other for New Year. Neither of us sees the kids when it's their time with the other.

Last year was my first Christmas without the kids and I decided we'd have a "mini-mas" the weekend before: the kids and I exchanged gifts ( one for each of them rather than the whole stocking thing that their Dad would do), they opted to go to Nando's for a treat then we came home and ate rubbish and watched Christmas movies with duvets on the couch... was lovely!

I had made it very clear to friends and family that I didn't want to "do Christmas" without kids so spent 3 quiet days at home doing very little and watching rubbish whilst indulging in foody treats... this was also rather lovely to and it didn't really feel like I was missing out... I fully intend to do the same next time it's not "my turn".

We then go away for New Year with friends.

When I do have the kids we spend it with my family as we always have.

My kids are completely fine with it... (3 aged 12-14) I think it feels like they just get an extended celebration and presents on several days... we have kept our split as amicable as possible (effort required on my part as he left me for the clichéd younger woman)so they see no acrimony....

Hope you can reach a solution you are all happy with.