Have I gone overboard for three year old?

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I have got DD (3) too much already I think the list is as follows:

Unicorn race track thing off eBay
Fire station toy (it's very small, not a massive playset)
Duplo night train
Parrot teddy (sequin one)
Happyland space rocket (second hand)
All of the Paw Patrol sea vehicles (6- each dog + vehicle)
Paw Patrol umbrella
Masha doll (from Masha and the bear)
Paw Patrol Pirate ship

So tempted to also get:
Scooby Doo mystery machine + figures
Melissa and Doug Vet set
Dinosaur book
Dinosaur figures

All of the branded things are from programmes she enjoys eg scooby doo and paw patrol but I don't know if this is too much and if she'll be overwhelmed or if it's normal? She'll have a few gifts from grandparents too.

I think your update is definitely sensible OP. I totally overwhelmed 3 year old ds last year, he'd had a year of upheaval, the loss of his adored Granddad (my df), the arrival of a new baby sister etc and I just wanted to make Christmas perfect so totally over did it. He opened his stocking and was quite content. We were still opening stuff at New Year.

The Happyland rocket is a firm favourite here too.

I agree with the poster who mentioned spending time rather buying gifts. Book a nice Santa visit, go ice skating, or to a panto. Money well spent and then the toys you choose to give will be more appreciated as she won’t have so many that some get ignored.

Just remember that whatever you do now sets them up for their lifetime attitude.
She's old enough to remember so, next year, will expect another huge pile. You will probably feel pressure to provide that and you will. That spirals. Cut it down now before she is old enough to notice and throw a strop.

When I was 18, I started dating someone in September. In November, he's start texting his mum photos of stuff he saw in shops that he wanted for Xmas. She would buy every single thing. He just said "she's always spend about £1000 on me at Xmas so now I just text when I see stuff I want". He just kept doing it, she kept buying it and on Xmas he had a huge mountain. She was skint... But wouldn't say no because she said "well, I've always done it and it just wouldn't be nice to stop now". He was just so spoiled and it didn't occur to him to stop being an ass. We didn't last much longer!
You really don't want a teenager like That!

Loving your latest post OP. Didn't mean to be so judgey pants with my first post but it really is about presence not presents and the plastic thing is the cherry on the gift giving cake.
I admire your organisation skills btw.

It sounds lovely, and plenty. I think it's normal to want to show your love via presents at this time of year, we all do it. Some of the lists you will see on here later will be longer than yours and I am often at the amounts people spend, especially for older DC, but this seems to attract less judgment on here. Your DD is a lucky little girl and I hope you have a beautiful Christmas together.

It’s only August. I’m still in summer mode. Haven’t even started thinking about Christmas. And like others said, how do you know what she will like?

Also, think of your plastic consumption....

She will be overwhelmed by more than a few pressies. Calm down.

I used to do the same for my oldest when she was little, just buying crap for the sake of it.

Stopped at 5 and have not regretted it. All the D.C. have 5-10 small presents and a main one. Dd3 will have probably 3/5 things including bubbles and stickers.

Her list is

Bubbles
Stickers
Orchard toy games (can’t recommend enough!!)
Some dressing up bits
And a dolls bed

Can you return any of it or cancel the orders if they're still pending?

Can you hold back some of the gifts to give on her birthday instead? That will prevent her from getting too overwhelmed with gifts.

If family get her gifts, can you ask them to buy passes for experience activities like zoos, soft play etc or swimming lessons.

I am relieved the days of lots of plastic tat are a thing of the past for us. I have to admit that in our house we do the following-

1. stocking - from Father Christmas. Very large pillow case full of smaller toys, pencils, crayons, bubble bath, knickers, an orange, chocolate coins, hair clips, hair bands etc etc

1. Father Christmas also brings ONE large toy which is always by the fireplace. Usually 'the toy' the child has asked for ie- new doll, garage, barbie house etc

1. We (the parents) usually give a few smaller presents. Always an outfit for Christmas Day and a few other toys. (3-4)

Rules on opening!!
On waking up- Stockings are dragged into parents room to be opened on the bed all together

Go downstairs to see what FC bought and try to find Christmas Day outfit gift!
Breakfast

Get dressed and go to church (or a walk)

Before lunch - 2 presents (ish)
After lunch - remaining presents

Some years we have saved presents for Boxing Day

Maybe set a budget and then work from that? Then you tell yourself if the budget is gone, no more gifts are needed. (Although sounds like your budget will be big!) I spend around £80 between my 2 kids. We have a big extended family who buy for them and who I buy for too, and I'd rather keep costs down now while I can. When they're older (teens), one gift might cost £100-£200

Given your update, I would give her some of the paw Patrol Toys now and save the rest for her birthday, otherwise you have to think of new things for her birthday.

I actually don’t think your list was that crazy. Some of the responses on here make it sound like you’ve bought hundreds of things. 3 is such a lovely age for presents and there are so many things i would like for mine who is that age. Could you do some crafty bits and pieces instead of some of the character items?

Way too much, they will want to play with the first thing they open! If you want more parcels stick to useful things like socks and a toothbrush.

Considering it's still only August, yes, you have gone overboard, but glad you're reining it in a bit.

In answer to your question, I think you have a bit, yes.

Will she also be getting presents from friends and family?

Oh come on people it's hardly obscene. I'd give her the rocket now, because you want some leeway if she desperately wants something right before Christmas. Put the parrot teddy, Masha doll, maybe unbrella and get scooby doo figures second hand and put in stocking. My kids tend to have 10 ish gifts under the tree and 10 ish smaller ones in stocking. I think I'm a middle of the roader...not obscene, not too stingy.

I don’t think it’s too much to be honest, as long as you’re not going in to debt, or under pressure then why not

Op I don't think it is a wild amount either.
But I wouldn't buy any more.

Bearing in mind this is the CHRISTMAS topic I think you are getting a rough ride

I also don’t think your list is that bad

As for all the virtue signalling from other posters about the plastic

Are you cutting out plastic completely in your lives? You have no idea whether the op has cut it from
Different areas in her life...

I don’t think the list is obscene. I would say though that I would avoid gifts they might have moved on from in such a short time and am surprised at the number of people saying she will no longer be interested. paw patrol was a hit here for years! In fact my 9 year old still won’t part with them 🙈

At 3 there are so many lovely non character stuff too. Play silks, construction toys, dress up, small world stuff etc. At that age we wouldn’t put gifts in a pile. I would out the packages around the house and open them slowly across a day

Where would you put all that STUFF?

It’s not even that much I’m shocked at the replies op. Don’t get rid of the stuff because some people on here’s don’t buy as much 🤷🏻‍♀️
If you think your daughter will like it then keep it?
It’s not a ridiculous list at all