I don't mean to sound ungrateful but...

[Bellabutterfly2016]

My mum has 2 sisters and 1 of them is notoriously bad at gift buying. She is extremely wealthy and has no money worries whatsoever.

This year she got my mum and the other sister a Clarins giftset - nice but randome as neither of them buy Clarins ordinarily. I know she uses it herself.

She had obviously spent over £50, qualified for the "free gift" and decided it was somehow acceptable to give this to me (I'd seen these in boots/ John Lewis) as my gift. I don't use Clarins either.

My partner got a £20 voucher as did my daughter and I got the free sample crap of stuff I'd never in a million years use anyway!!!!!!!

We got her and her husband book tokens as they love reading and some fancy biscuits for a bit of something to open. We have considerably less money than them but I always try to make sure I get something nice for her.

For my birthday I got size 12-14 pyjamas from M&S (I'm a good 18!) I took them back to M&S to get some to fit and was told when I wanted to exchange them that the stock was 3 years old they were worth £1.99!!! She is a 12-14 herself so I'm thinking it's an unwanted gift she's recycling!

I dont mean to sound ungrateful but I'm extremely peed off with this!!!

My mum was saying yesterday "have you written your thankyou cards"! And to be honest I'm that mad about these bloody free samples I'm not sure I want too! I feel like posting them back to her for her birthday In January!!!!!!

AIBU here? My Mum was almost sweeping the issue under the carpet but I just feel really hurt by it - I feel like I want to say something to her.

Nicely suggest that you stop doing adult gifts now? I don't get or give gifts to my aunts, it's unnecessary. That would solve all of your problems.

This is an interesting one. I can see why your upset but then the 3 for 2 gifts and toys in shops are the same. Someone gets a free gift. She probably saw it like that.

My other thought is why are you still doing presents. I can understand aunties and uncles buying for children but not adults.

I'd say let's not do presents next year. That'll sort the upset and stress out.

But also I look forward to funny gifts. I'd get really disappointed if I didn't get my usual jar of marmite and de-icer from my MIL. She doesn't give it to be funny but has no idea what to buy me and I use these things. It gives us a good chuckle on Christmas morning.

Is op talking about the 3 for 2 gifts? I thought she was talking more about the little makeup bags of samples you get with premium brands when you spend a certain amount

Are you 12? Adults don’t really expect decent gifts. You’re lucky to have an aunt sending you something. First world problem!!

Come on, op, it’s just a present from your aunt. I can’t remember the last time I got a present from an aunt - sixteen probably. Clarins is lovely, and she’s just a savvy buyer. If she’s still buying gifts for her nieces and nephews she might have a lot to buy for!

I think you just need to roll your eyes and get over it. I doubt it’s anything personal, she’s just clearly a tight arse! I would just get her a small gift in the January sales and save it for next Christmas from now on. Then have a laugh with your family each year about her crap present buying! Too be honest many aunts stop buying for the niece and nephews once they are adults, let alone buy for their partners and children anyway. And every family has at least one crap present buyer.

Ha ha best suggestion by PP is to re-gift the freebie to her in January.

Why does your aunt have to give you, your partner and your child a gift? Blimey, where does it stop!

Clarins is a perfectly acceptable brand for a gift, it's not that cheap. How rude to try to figure out the cost? You don't know where people get their gifts from and it's none of your business: they could have freebies through work, taken them from a hamper given to them, regift, so what? It's the same product, the price paid doesn't change anything. You don't like Clarins just give it to someone else.

Don't be so rude and ungrateful.

Posters calling your aunt tight are ridiculous, she spent at least £40 on your family, how is that tight, you are only her niece.

Let it go, you know she's eccentric.

Also, just read the post again and you exchanged book tokens to them for vouchers to your partner/dc. So essentially you swapped money plus some additional landfill tat? Bonkers...... just stop the gifts!

I agree that this is the time to say no more gifts to/from adults. When it starts to create ill feeling like this it defeats the whole purpose of Christmas. We did it for the first time this year, we had 10 people here for Christmas Day and the only person who got a gift was FIL (whose birthday falls on Christmas Day). The day was just as much fun as it always has been with lovely food and drink, games, sing and dancing etc with no pause to open parcels of over-priced, unwanted tat and no bags of unwanted gifts to shlep down to the charity shops next week.

re. Your unwanted Clarins gift set - bring it with you next time you see your aunt. When you get a private moment with her, say ‘it was so kind of you to give me this but I really don’t get on with Clarins. I thought I’d give it back as I know you will make better use of it than me’.

Grow up. Stop all the unnecessary Christmas/birthday present giving. You're an adult now.

I would also not be jumping for joy for biscuits and book tokens hardly a thoughtful gift is it