AIBU to uninvite then?!

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We have invited some people we don't know well for Christmas Day as they were going to be on their own for Xmas.
My parents are coming too.

Since then poor DS has an awful cold and ear infection and we've now all come down with the cold. I've spent the day sleeping on the sofa and feeling awful.

The couple coming have a baby and so I messaged to say we were all ill and wouldn't be a good idea for them to come.
They replied that they have colds coming so the baby will probably get it too so it's fine.

The thing is if I don't start to feel better I really don't fancy hosting and cooking Christmas dinner for 9. I've only managed some pringles today and feel like Xmas day might be spent in pjs eating chocolate. Kids aren't fussed about a big dinner as they have no appetites either.

However we might all be better by Tuesday.
Feel awful letting them down but I thought if I gave the notice today they could pop out and get supplies in.

Should I Just say again we are too ill to host? I thought they might have got that from my first message....

Or is that really mean?!

Well I think you have to decide what works best for you and yours and then tell them directly. Perhaps reschedule for in the week?

If you’re cancelling then I think you need to tell them tonight, gently but firmly so they realise they’re going to have to go out and get dinner in for themselves.

Not that I think you’re wrong, just that they really need to get the message that you’re not feeling up to it.

What @ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn said. You need to be crystal clear and tell them as soon as possible.

There's two of them and their child? That's not alone in my book- that's a family!

If you need to bail, do it clearly right now.

Honestly, this might not be a popular opinion but I think the night before Christmas Eve is too late to cancel people you’ve invited... especially if it’s just a cold.

I agree - I think it’s far too late to cancel especially for a cold. I have a bad one at the moment but max strength lemsip will see me through. I think you would be incredibly unfair to cancel on them.

Now normally I would agree and say meh it's just a cold but I literally couldn't lift my head up today I'm so knackered.

But we may have a solution. My parents are going to invite them to their house and just visit the dc in the morning and go home again to cook. I'll pack up the Xmas dinner stuff for them.

So everyone will have company! They know my parents and not us anyway.

Omg just tell them you've spent the last hour spewing your guts up and invite them another time.

Hope u fell better soon tho

“I messaged to say we were all ill and wouldn't be a good idea for them to come. ”

And they replied oh it’s fine we’re sick too and coming anyhow?!

Haha elk I thought that too!

If it was a single person who was genuinely going to be alone with nowhere to go on Christmas day then I'd be saying don't cancel. But there's no reason why two adults can't fend for themselves and have a lovely Christmas with their DC. You need to tell them tonight though so they can do a food shop tomorrow. Hope you feel better soon.

Quite Minister. I'd hate to think anybody is out there having a pity party for DH, DS and I. I can't think of anything I'd rather do than spend time with just the 3 of us together.

I think if you feel that ill from your cold today, you’ll be on the mend by Tuesday. If you are hosting nine and cancel two, then you still have to cook and welcome seven others so an extra couple and a newborn really won’t cause much extra hassle.

No I'm cancelling everyone.

Also yes, couple plus baby is not "alone"

They're not 'alone' 😂

And don't have your parents host them, that's just weird. Tell them you're too ill and that you'll see them soon.

And don't have your parents host them, that's just weird
Well that's not op's decision is it, it's her parents, what with them being grown ups and all! They are her parents friends not op's afterall